Comments on: How to complain constructively

By: Jan Sam

Jan Sam — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 14:47:37 +0000

The Nathanial Branden Institute has been criminally harassing me and apparently exploiting me without agreement from me. How do I stop a professional group like this? I was also mistreated during the workshop. suing isn’t feasable since they have been extremely strident with what they do not believe is coercion. eg they attack you

By: GiGi

GiGi — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 05:03:17 +0000

I’m a very dedicated employee. I’ve been with that company for more than 10 years and have been promoted several times. Work is an very important part of my life. But ever since the new manager came, she doesn’t think I fit my position. I felt that no matter what I did, she is not satisfied with me. She said my communication skill is not good. Now I became a complainer. I complained to her boss but no use. What should I do? Continue to stay in that company with lower position or just quit? Need help!!!

By: Julio R. Giron

Julio R. Giron — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 15:35:12 +0000

I read your article and I did find what I was looking for. I need to know how to say what I’m complaining about and who to say it too. What I got from your article was ‘don’t complain’ and keep working. Nowhere did you mention when was the best time to get Human Resources involved. Your asking us to speak directly to our supervisors or managers. What if they both are the problem. Neither one cares how you feel, just so long as you do your job. You should have given example on how one should express themselves. You gave example on when NOT to complain, but not when one should. I did not find your article useful.

By: Lelia berks

Lelia berks — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 19:32:15 +0000

My boss bullied me so bad i had to quit my job today! It was awful and i feel like crap now

By: Top 10 reasons why constant complaining is so toxic in the workplace

Top 10 reasons why constant complaining is so toxic in the workplace — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 07:19:01 +0000

[...] So what can we do about it? Well first of all, each of us can learn to complain constructively. This means learning to complain in a way that leads to the problem being fixed – rather than to more complaining. Here’s my post on how you can How to complain constructively. [...]

By: Oil, salt and vinegar

Oil, salt and vinegar — Tue, 22 May 2007 10:39:39 +0000

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By: Monday Tip: Complain

Monday Tip: Complain — Mon, 07 May 2007 07:47:05 +0000

[...] However, you must complain constructively following the tips in this post. This means complaining at the right time, to the right person about the right problem. As opposed to just moaning all the time to whoever will listen about whatever bugs you the most. [...]

By: Alexander

Alexander — Sun, 10 Sep 2006 08:10:12 +0000

Michael: That works too :o)

I believe this is a good way to motivate yourself, but less likely to work on others.

By: buzzcap @ www.buzzcap.com

buzzcap @ www.buzzcap.com — Mon, 04 Sep 2006 17:36:42 +0000

How to Complain Constructively

Complaining can be a great tool for initiating change and if we outlaw complaining in the workplace, as some managers try to do, all we do is drive it underground where it becomes even more toxic.

By: Michael Martine

Michael Martine — Fri, 01 Sep 2006 16:32:06 +0000

Excellent post! Here’s my shorthand take on the matter:

Unconstructive: Complain
Constructive: Shut up and do something about it

I’m reminded of an old joke supposedly from Mark Twain: “Everybody complains about the weather, but nobody does anything about it.”