Comments on: A question for ya: Losing a job you love http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/ Make Yourself and Your Business Happy At Work Fri, 10 Feb 2012 10:56:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Alexander http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-29299 Alexander Wed, 03 Jan 2007 21:37:39 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-29299 Love Lost: I'm glad you liked the input and happy to hear that you're making a name for yourself in your new job. And I agree, we tend to tie up much of our identity in work, which can make changes painful and unsettling. Rationally we may be able to tell ourselves that the new situation is fine, but this operates mostly on an emotional, non-rational level. Love Lost: I’m glad you liked the input and happy to hear that you’re making a name for yourself in your new job.

And I agree, we tend to tie up much of our identity in work, which can make changes painful and unsettling.

Rationally we may be able to tell ourselves that the new situation is fine, but this operates mostly on an emotional, non-rational level.

]]> By: Love Lost http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-28972 Love Lost Tue, 02 Jan 2007 23:28:10 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-28972 I am Love Lost. Thanks for all the positive advice and comments. I have thrown myself at my new job with abandon and the results ahve been very positive. I am starting to carve out my own niche and make a name for myself. I have met socially with a few of my old coworkers who have been quite supportive. They also mention that the old place isn't the same and things have gone completely nuts without me there. That's nice to hear although I suspect they are just saying it. Someone once said that people fear change because of the amount of our selves that we have invested in that situation is significant to their perception of their self. We fear loosing that part of ourselves forever. It takes time to bounce back and regain confidence. It takes time for us to realize that we still have our selves right there with us. That sounds rather silly, but that's my situation exactly. I am Love Lost.

Thanks for all the positive advice and comments. I have thrown myself at my new job with abandon and the results ahve been very positive. I am starting to carve out my own niche and make a name for myself.

I have met socially with a few of my old coworkers who have been quite supportive. They also mention that the old place isn’t the same and things have gone completely nuts without me there. That’s nice to hear although I suspect they are just saying it.

Someone once said that people fear change because of the amount of our selves that we have invested in that situation is significant to their perception of their self. We fear loosing that part of ourselves forever. It takes time to bounce back and regain confidence. It takes time for us to realize that we still have our selves right there with us.

That sounds rather silly, but that’s my situation exactly.

]]> By: DanM http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-22158 DanM Sat, 23 Dec 2006 00:04:51 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-22158 In North America, the 18 month maximum prevents companies from being sued for "employee benefits" by long-term contractors. The 6 month period seems to be the minimum period to ensure there is no confusion about the fact that a contractor is not an employee. "lawsuits" are the American way. "Better competition through litigation" Later, Dan In North America, the 18 month maximum prevents companies from being sued for “employee benefits” by long-term contractors. The 6 month period seems to be the minimum period to ensure there is no confusion about the fact that a contractor is not an employee.

“lawsuits” are the American way.

“Better competition through litigation”

Later,
Dan

]]> By: Alexander http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21240 Alexander Wed, 20 Dec 2006 15:09:54 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21240 Thanks for all the comments people. This is great stuff! Medhul: Contacts are a great help. And most people have more contacts than they realize! Jon: Thanks for those stories. I applaud your determination to make the best out of work both when being terminated and in leaving a bad job situation on your own accord. Scott: Those are great tips. I especially liked the one about "learn from the previous job about what you liked". Too many people do the opposite and only make long lists of what to avoid in their next job. Viji: Accept it wholeheartedly - I like that. Any situation we find ourselves in becomes easier when we accept it or even appreciate it. Anna: Trapped with a great salary - that's an expression to remember! Erno: I like your approach to moving and making it fun! Thanks for all the comments people. This is great stuff!

Medhul: Contacts are a great help. And most people have more contacts than they realize!

Jon: Thanks for those stories. I applaud your determination to make the best out of work both when being terminated and in leaving a bad job situation on your own accord.

Scott: Those are great tips. I especially liked the one about “learn from the previous job about what you liked”. Too many people do the opposite and only make long lists of what to avoid in their next job.

Viji: Accept it wholeheartedly – I like that. Any situation we find ourselves in becomes easier when we accept it or even appreciate it.

Anna: Trapped with a great salary – that’s an expression to remember!

Erno: I like your approach to moving and making it fun!

]]> By: Erno Hannink http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21211 Erno Hannink Wed, 20 Dec 2006 13:24:00 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21211 Dear Love Lost, (sounds a bit like "Dear Abby" huh) First of all, don't worry. Not sure what country you are in, but most of the time there are really a lot of jobs in your area. That you, love your job, worked hard, loved what you did, did well with the people you worked with, will work for you in your new job. In my career I have met a lot of people that wanted to stay at the company they were working. They say; "I love my job, I love my colleagues, and I do not know what to aspect in a new job." Is say, you are correct, you do not know what to aspect, but it probably is better. In the past I have had some jobs. In the beginning I worked for 18-24 months for a company and started looking for a new job. Not just to move up. Getting to know new colleagues, a new culture, new management styles is so interesting. It will make your career very rich. It will make it easier for you to adept to change. A new job is a challenge but it is a whole lot of fun. The chances that you end up in a shitty job, at a bad company, with horrible colleagues are pretty slim. And that is because a lot of the good time that you are having now is due to YOU. Your attitude (love job, work hard, fun with colleagues) will help you to have fun in all your future jobs. Good luck with your new job and have fun. Merry Christmas and a good 2007. Regards, Erno Dear Love Lost, (sounds a bit like “Dear Abby” huh)

First of all, don’t worry.
Not sure what country you are in, but most of the time there are really a lot of jobs in your area.
That you, love your job, worked hard, loved what you did, did well with the people you worked with, will work for you in your new job.

In my career I have met a lot of people that wanted to stay at the company they were working. They say; “I love my job, I love my colleagues, and I do not know what to aspect in a new job.” Is say, you are correct, you do not know what to aspect, but it probably is better.

In the past I have had some jobs. In the beginning I worked for 18-24 months for a company and started looking for a new job. Not just to move up. Getting to know new colleagues, a new culture, new management styles is so interesting. It will make your career very rich. It will make it easier for you to adept to change.

A new job is a challenge but it is a whole lot of fun. The chances that you end up in a shitty job, at a bad company, with horrible colleagues are pretty slim. And that is because a lot of the good time that you are having now is due to YOU. Your attitude (love job, work hard, fun with colleagues) will help you to have fun in all your future jobs.

Good luck with your new job and have fun.
Merry Christmas and a good 2007.

Regards,
Erno

]]> By: Erno Hannink http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21209 Erno Hannink Wed, 20 Dec 2006 13:10:19 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21209 @Anna, Yes those big salaries are always a great trap. It keeps your from following your dream. @Anna,
Yes those big salaries are always a great trap. It keeps your from following your dream.

]]> By: Anna Farmery http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21179 Anna Farmery Wed, 20 Dec 2006 10:56:48 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21179 Hey Alex Great question, I decided that it was a chance to follow my dream - I know sounds a bit mushy - but I had been trapped with a great salary. So I started The Engaging Brand....and got to interview great motivators like you! Hey Alex

Great question, I decided that it was a chance to follow my dream – I know sounds a bit mushy – but I had been trapped with a great salary. So I started The Engaging Brand….and got to interview great motivators like you!

]]> By: Viji http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21094 Viji Wed, 20 Dec 2006 05:35:41 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21094 My point is to accept it whole heartedly. You are already in the good books of this company - I mean if you really love what you do, you would have done your job in an excellent manner. So even without asking, the people there will come forward to give you a lead. Use this experience in your next job to excel. In future, if there is any opening sure, they will consider your CV for that. Nothing is permannent in this world. This is my humble opinion. Viji My point is to accept it whole heartedly. You are already in the good books of this company – I mean if you really love what you do, you would have done your job in an excellent manner. So even without asking, the people there will come forward to give you a lead. Use this experience in your next job to excel. In future, if there is any opening sure, they will consider your CV for that. Nothing is permannent in this world. This is my humble opinion. Viji

]]> By: Scott http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21089 Scott Wed, 20 Dec 2006 05:08:49 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21089 First, if you have any thoughts about how the rules that you can't work there for 6 months suck or are unfair, remember that you signed on to those rules. It's good to approach a problem when you know that where you are was your choice. Second, learn from the previous job about what you liked....and realize that the next job may not be as good. BUT, because I assume that you need a job, learn to love the next one as much as you can because the next "bad" job is the one that will propel you to the next "good" one.....however far off it might be. Third, look forward and don't lament about the good ol days when the next job is less than perfect. The grass is always greener....blah...blah Fourth, do everything possible to always give yourself options. Cash is king and nothing you own will substitute for the daily happiness that fulfilling experience can bring. Build cash....and build contacts. Fifth, if that previous job was THEE job, 6 months will go by in no time. Decide....visualize....yourself being back in a position with that employer. Work those contacts that you kept.....let people know that you have an interest in returning (but don't let them know you are desperate to return). First, if you have any thoughts about how the rules that you can’t work there for 6 months suck or are unfair, remember that you signed on to those rules. It’s good to approach a problem when you know that where you are was your choice.

Second, learn from the previous job about what you liked….and realize that the next job may not be as good. BUT, because I assume that you need a job, learn to love the next one as much as you can because the next “bad” job is the one that will propel you to the next “good” one…..however far off it might be.

Third, look forward and don’t lament about the good ol days when the next job is less than perfect. The grass is always greener….blah…blah

Fourth, do everything possible to always give yourself options. Cash is king and nothing you own will substitute for the daily happiness that fulfilling experience can bring. Build cash….and build contacts.

Fifth, if that previous job was THEE job, 6 months will go by in no time. Decide….visualize….yourself being back in a position with that employer. Work those contacts that you kept…..let people know that you have an interest in returning (but don’t let them know you are desperate to return).

]]> By: Mehul Khandhar http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21057 Mehul Khandhar Wed, 20 Dec 2006 02:53:31 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2006/12/a-question-for-ya-losing-a-job-you-love/#comment-21057 Well Said, I say! =) Good Luck M. Well Said, I say! =)

Good Luck
M.

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