Comments on: Find Your Quitting Point http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/ Make Yourself and Your Business Happy At Work Sun, 20 May 2012 05:56:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Finding the courage to quit http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-260528 Finding the courage to quit Wed, 28 Mar 2012 08:21:36 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-260528 [...] How to know it’s time to quit. [...] [...] How to know it’s time to quit. [...]

]]> By: Trudy mansfield http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-260442 Trudy mansfield Wed, 21 Mar 2012 00:59:18 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-260442 Although I know it is time for me to leave my present job, I am very concerned about what to say in an interview if they ask me why I left before I had another job. My present boss is demeaning and unfair, and I know I can't say that in an interview. How many managers-I am an RN-are concerned about something like that? Although I know it is time for me to leave my present job, I am very concerned about what to say in an interview if they ask me why I left before I had another job. My present boss is demeaning and unfair, and I know I can’t say that in an interview. How many managers-I am an RN-are concerned about something like that?

]]> By: Richard http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-259836 Richard Wed, 01 Feb 2012 18:53:31 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-259836 For whatever it's worth, one of the last things my mother said to me before dying at age 98 was, "If you still feel good after quitting then you probably made the right decision." Good advice, that. Macky, I'm sorry you're going through a tough period now, but with a time frame you have built a structure that will allow an exit. Maybe the title and work can be parlayed back into something better in your old country, at least in one (I presume in the EU?) where you're treated better. Anyway, ask yourself if you'd really be happy sitting indefinitely in the dead end job. If not, then my mom's advice might be useful. Good luck. For whatever it’s worth, one of the last things my mother said to me before dying at age 98 was, “If you still feel good after quitting then you probably made the right decision.” Good advice, that. Macky, I’m sorry you’re going through a tough period now, but with a time frame you have built a structure that will allow an exit. Maybe the title and work can be parlayed back into something better in your old country, at least in one (I presume in the EU?) where you’re treated better. Anyway, ask yourself if you’d really be happy sitting indefinitely in the dead end job. If not, then my mom’s advice might be useful. Good luck.

]]> By: Macky http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-259792 Macky Tue, 31 Jan 2012 05:01:08 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-259792 Follow up on my comment, there will come a time that title, salary level and company prestige won't matter that much.. Money and title will not buy the satisfaction we derive from the work we love in a work place that is friendly! Follow up on my comment, there will come a time that title, salary level and company prestige won’t matter that much.. Money and title will not buy the satisfaction we derive from the work we love in a work place that is friendly!

]]> By: Macky http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-259791 Macky Tue, 31 Jan 2012 04:53:08 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-259791 I'd probably be one of the few that will say, i regretted leaving my old job. I left that one because my career was at a dead end because of my position ( no oppurtunity for promotion ) . I went to another country, got " the title" i wanted but ended up being tied to a facility which is hostile and stress level is so high, let alone that Im a foreigner .. I feel it's time ti quit but as the practical side of life must not be ignored, rent, food , debts , Im making a very concerted effort to go about my job but doing it in a way that's less my personal standard..I just sail along. At the moment , I've made plans to deal with the practical issues and gave myself a time frame. This makes the effort in coming in for work less painful. I’d probably be one of the few that will say, i regretted leaving my old job. I left that one because my career was at a dead end because of my position ( no oppurtunity for promotion ) . I went to another country, got ” the title” i wanted but ended up being tied to a facility which is hostile and stress level is so high, let alone that Im a foreigner .. I feel it’s time ti quit but as the practical side of life must not be ignored, rent, food , debts , Im making a very concerted effort to go about my job but doing it in a way that’s less my personal standard..I just sail along. At the moment , I’ve made plans to deal with the practical issues and gave myself a time frame. This makes the effort in coming in for work less painful.

]]> By: Richard http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-259215 Richard Tue, 03 Jan 2012 12:55:35 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-259215 Well said, Sheryl. It can be very hard to go, but I think you're right about leaving when your body tells you it's time. One thing that can help staying in a bad situation is getting in shape--over the last few years my wife and I went from sedentary to triathletes and that certainly eased our stresses. Still, for reasons given in my November post, last month I quit. (This was shortly after a friend and long-time colleague finally retired and promptly died of ALS, and another suddenly developed major brain cancer. Maybe neither got these from stress, but the environment couldn't have helped and both showed life is too short for work that never gets better.) Two colleagues who left--still healthy--said I'd lose weight afterwards. Since making the decision to go I've dropped 10 pounds. What does that say? Well said, Sheryl. It can be very hard to go, but I think you’re right about leaving when your body tells you it’s time. One thing that can help staying in a bad situation is getting in shape–over the last few years my wife and I went from sedentary to triathletes and that certainly eased our stresses. Still, for reasons given in my November post, last month I quit. (This was shortly after a friend and long-time colleague finally retired and promptly died of ALS, and another suddenly developed major brain cancer. Maybe neither got these from stress, but the environment couldn’t have helped and both showed life is too short for work that never gets better.) Two colleagues who left–still healthy–said I’d lose weight afterwards. Since making the decision to go I’ve dropped 10 pounds. What does that say?

]]> By: Sheryl http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-259151 Sheryl Sat, 31 Dec 2011 23:33:42 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-259151 I quit my profession after years of being very unhappy. For me here really was a defining moment ----somebody said something that was not only nasty but questioned my professional judgement. In that moment I received awesome clarity and I realised that I was worthy of so much more than I was receiving (AND accepting). In my case, and I suspect in many others, my self esteem had been systematically eroded away by others which made them feel better about themselves and as an eternal 'people pleaser' I had allowed this and eventually, subconsciously, had actually sought it to validate my feeling of unworthiness. I thought my unhappiness originated in an individual workplace and so changed this a couple of times and finally I realized the profession I loved 30years ago was now not providing any fulfillment whatsoever and as a believer in the power of attraction it became clear that my feelings of dissatisfaction constantly came straight back to me. Therefore, there was only one person who could change this and that was me. I also had developed a few health issues that I suspected were stress induced and these quickly resolved after leaving the source of stress---work. Why did I not leave sooner? I think mainly because of parental conditioning of being a 'responsible' adult that works hard for the family and feelings of work satisfaction do not factor---a good steady wage coming in every month is all that matters. However, I firmly believe had I not quit my health issues would have escalated until I was forced on health grounds to quit! And as a single parent what example was I setting my 13 year old daughter? I'm sure she would much rather have a mother who was earning less but well and happy than an unhappy, stressed mother with some potentially fatal health issues. In the end it all boiled down to looking into the mirror and questioning my self worth---I owed it to daughter and myself to be healthy and happy. And yes it is scary-very scary- especially financially, but the loss of my health is more frightening. It is now New Years Day and I am unemployed but I KNOW without any doubt it was one of the best decisions I have ever made.!! I quit my profession after years of being very unhappy. For me here really was a defining moment —-somebody said something that was not only nasty but questioned my professional judgement. In that moment I received awesome clarity and I realised that I was worthy of so much more than I was receiving (AND accepting). In my case, and I suspect in many others, my self esteem had been systematically eroded away by others which made them feel better about themselves and as an eternal ‘people pleaser’ I had allowed this and eventually, subconsciously, had actually sought it to validate my feeling of unworthiness.
I thought my unhappiness originated in an individual workplace and so changed this a couple of times and finally I realized the profession I loved 30years ago was now not providing any fulfillment whatsoever and as a believer in the power of attraction it became clear that my feelings of dissatisfaction constantly came straight back to me. Therefore, there was only one person who could change this and that was me.
I also had developed a few health issues that I suspected were stress induced and these quickly resolved after leaving the source of stress—work.
Why did I not leave sooner? I think mainly because of parental conditioning of being a ‘responsible’ adult that works hard for the family and feelings of work satisfaction do not factor—a good steady wage coming in every month is all that matters. However, I firmly believe had I not quit my health issues would have escalated until I was forced on health grounds to quit! And as a single parent what example was I setting my 13 year old daughter? I’m sure she would much rather have a mother who was earning less but well and happy than an unhappy, stressed mother with some potentially fatal health issues.
In the end it all boiled down to looking into the mirror and questioning my self worth—I owed it to daughter and myself to be healthy and happy. And yes it is scary-very scary- especially financially, but the loss of my health is more frightening.
It is now New Years Day and I am unemployed but I KNOW without any doubt it was one of the best decisions I have ever made.!!

]]> By: Gyran Gymble http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-258683 Gyran Gymble Tue, 13 Dec 2011 14:19:25 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-258683 My quitting point? Soon. The promised bodyguard training has never happened, any time I mention it the boss always says "we'll look into it and get back to you" I'm very much a night person and suddenly I'm working the day shift so that "we can all cover for each other if something happens" Really because the senior officer can screw with us. This guy is extremely bad. Every second word is a swear word, he disguises his rudeness and mean comments as humour and when you don't laugh, as I've stopped doing, he complains that YOU are the one with no sense of humour! I could go on but its just easier to say that he's mean and rude. I'll be giving my two weeks notice sometime this week and, not wanting to burn any bridges here, am going to talk with the boss about casual shifts. If the subject comes up naturally in the conversation I'll tell him about the senior officer but I'm not going to volunteer anything since I know that what I say will invariably get back to him. My quitting point? Soon.
The promised bodyguard training has never happened, any time I mention it the boss always says “we’ll look into it and get back to you”
I’m very much a night person and suddenly I’m working the day shift so that “we can all cover for each other if something happens” Really because the senior officer can screw with us.

This guy is extremely bad. Every second word is a swear word, he disguises his rudeness and mean comments as humour and when you don’t laugh, as I’ve stopped doing, he complains that YOU are the one with no sense of humour! I could go on but its just easier to say that he’s mean and rude.

I’ll be giving my two weeks notice sometime this week and, not wanting to burn any bridges here, am going to talk with the boss about casual shifts. If the subject comes up naturally in the conversation I’ll tell him about the senior officer but I’m not going to volunteer anything since I know that what I say will invariably get back to him.

]]> By: Selma Driven http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-258549 Selma Driven Wed, 07 Dec 2011 19:42:35 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-258549 I have been working for this company for almost a year (yes on January it will be a year). For the past 9 months :S I have had the thought of quitting, but haven't found the guts to do it. I am at the point where all the people who know about how I feel at work have lost all hope and tell me I will never quit. I know I have the right reasons to do so, but still I'm here. At the beginning it was like a dream job, then I things changed once I started noticing the things that go on around here. My first excuse was that before I could quit the other person who worked with me quit before I could, so I was left with all the work, then I started telling myself I had to finish up projects and try to help this company get back on track before I quit, I know that day will never come, I still hear it in my head that it will, that if I wait a little longer things will change. Don't mind my inner evil voice, they wont. I think that once you start not wanting to go to work in the mornings, that once at night you go to sleep and dread the morning come its time to quit. But I am still here. Things have gotten worse, and I have come to terms with my own self that not matter how much I try to change the situation I am not the one who will. This company already had its BIG problems before I came aboard. I say to myself: If only I had started to work with them sooner, maybe they wouldn't be in this situation, if only the past didn't exist .. I know it will affect my financial status for a while, but I am a hard working person, and my husband is as well, There is always something to do before I can find me another full time job. I'm very confused as to why I'm still here. I have gone home in tears, have spent weekend days in bed with no will get up and do anything. My husbands opinion is that I should try harder and stay with this company, although he wont make me stay he knows about how I feel and knows my reasons to want to quit, I was very surprised at his opinion. That might also be something that's keeping me from quitting. I know that letting them down is keeping me from quitting. But I also know that I need to quit for my own good sake. I NEED A SLAP ACROSS MY FACE TO SNAP OUT OF IT AND THINK ABOUT ME FIRST. I have been working for this company for almost a year (yes on January it will be a year). For the past 9 months :S I have had the thought of quitting, but haven’t found the guts to do it. I am at the point where all the people who know about how I feel at work have lost all hope and tell me I will never quit. I know I have the right reasons to do so, but still I’m here. At the beginning it was like a dream job, then I things changed once I started noticing the things that go on around here. My first excuse was that before I could quit the other person who worked with me quit before I could, so I was left with all the work, then I started telling myself I had to finish up projects and try to help this company get back on track before I quit, I know that day will never come, I still hear it in my head that it will, that if I wait a little longer things will change. Don’t mind my inner evil voice, they wont. I think that once you start not wanting to go to work in the mornings, that once at night you go to sleep and dread the morning come its time to quit. But I am still here. Things have gotten worse, and I have come to terms with my own self that not matter how much I try to change the situation I am not the one who will. This company already had its BIG problems before I came aboard. I say to myself: If only I had started to work with them sooner, maybe they wouldn’t be in this situation, if only the past didn’t exist .. I know it will affect my financial status for a while, but I am a hard working person, and my husband is as well, There is always something to do before I can find me another full time job. I’m very confused as to why I’m still here. I have gone home in tears, have spent weekend days in bed with no will get up and do anything. My husbands opinion is that I should try harder and stay with this company, although he wont make me stay he knows about how I feel and knows my reasons to want to quit, I was very surprised at his opinion. That might also be something that’s keeping me from quitting. I know that letting them down is keeping me from quitting. But I also know that I need to quit for my own good sake. I NEED A SLAP ACROSS MY FACE TO SNAP OUT OF IT AND THINK ABOUT ME FIRST.

]]> By: A http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-258372 A Wed, 30 Nov 2011 15:17:08 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2007/06/find-your-quitting-point/#comment-258372 My quitting point came when I realized that my employer was misrepresenting financial and investment information to me. I work for a large rural midwestern grocery chain and haven't dealt with such a screwy company in a long time. To be honest, I should have left a long time ago but was still nervous of leaving. Don't stay simply because family or society pressures you to; no sane person would want you to stay in such a toxic environment. Putting aside the constant no-shows from co-workers and the stupid hours and wages, I put up with more from this 'employee owned' company than I did from the big bad corporations that I worked for in the past. It got to the point to where I ended up shopping at Walmart and Target just to spite my employer (both of them are cheaper and better anyways). Finally, I just couldn't take it anymore and gave my notice a couple of days ago. I know they'll be upset since they didn't hire enough people to replace everyone that leaves, but that's fine. I don't think I'll get a good reference from them no matter what I do so worrying about them is a moot point. My quitting point came when I realized that my employer was misrepresenting financial and investment information to me. I work for a large rural midwestern grocery chain and haven’t dealt with such a screwy company in a long time. To be honest, I should have left a long time ago but was still nervous of leaving. Don’t stay simply because family or society pressures you to; no sane person would want you to stay in such a toxic environment. Putting aside the constant no-shows from co-workers and the stupid hours and wages, I put up with more from this ‘employee owned’ company than I did from the big bad corporations that I worked for in the past. It got to the point to where I ended up shopping at Walmart and Target just to spite my employer (both of them are cheaper and better anyways). Finally, I just couldn’t take it anymore and gave my notice a couple of days ago. I know they’ll be upset since they didn’t hire enough people to replace everyone that leaves, but that’s fine. I don’t think I’ll get a good reference from them no matter what I do so worrying about them is a moot point.

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