Comments on: How to deal with anger at work http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/ Make Yourself and Your Business Happy At Work Sat, 13 Mar 2010 01:08:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: nhs http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/comment-page-1/#comment-243829 nhs Mon, 24 Aug 2009 00:56:33 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/#comment-243829 Plan an exit before they fire you. If you have to; lie about needing to take care of a sick relative. The take a full month off from job searching and VENT. Get your old job entirely out of your system. Think of good things about your prior employer and put it down on paper. MEMORIZE them and rehearse saying them until you can say them without sarcasm. THEN start job searching. Take control of your life, otherwise THEY will control it for you. Plan an exit before they fire you. If you have to; lie about needing to take care of a sick relative. The take a full month off from job searching and VENT. Get your old job entirely out of your system. Think of good things about your prior employer and put it down on paper. MEMORIZE them and rehearse saying them until you can say them without sarcasm. THEN start job searching.

Take control of your life, otherwise THEY will control it for you.

]]> By: johanne ouellet http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/comment-page-1/#comment-243815 johanne ouellet Sat, 22 Aug 2009 14:09:26 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/#comment-243815 Im about to get fired ,Iam suspended right now ,I got angry ,I walked Off in a huff after the suspension ,I am angry and I have tendency to behave erractic,rant,babble ,I dont want to do that again .I want to handle the firing ,meeting, better . I try to stay calm but my temper is so hot ,I cry , I loose my cool . How to control my reactions ? Help . Im about to get fired ,Iam suspended right now ,I got angry ,I walked Off in a huff after the suspension ,I am angry and I have tendency to behave erractic,rant,babble ,I dont want to do that again .I want to handle the firing ,meeting, better . I try to stay calm but my temper is so hot ,I cry , I loose my cool . How to control my reactions ? Help .

]]> By: bryan brown http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/comment-page-1/#comment-242295 bryan brown Mon, 13 Apr 2009 02:06:26 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/#comment-242295 ive read eveything on this webpage and nothing helps. im so mad i could throw my computer at my mom. somebody please help this is the 6th time shes done what shes done and right about know im fed up ive read eveything on this webpage and nothing helps. im so mad i could throw my computer at my mom. somebody please help this is the 6th time shes done what shes done and right about know im fed up

]]> By: lynn s. http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/comment-page-1/#comment-240830 lynn s. Thu, 05 Feb 2009 04:36:13 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/#comment-240830 Hi, Me and a friend of mine decided to go into business together,opening a hair salon. She is not there as much as I am nor does she clean the shop like I do, but she does do all the paper work from home and keeps excellient record and such. She is a wonderful,person.But a very much in control type person..She come in the shop and decides that she will start changing things around.She is always trying to make changes with something..I told her that,the desk did not need to be moved and everthing is a issue with her..i really try not to be angry.but sometimes she has a way of hitting the wrong button.I try to take to my husband and all he says is you two need to talk. Well guess what.. we do and she still want her way.Then my daughter has worked at the same station for almost 2 yrs. and she walks in and says that it is in the best intrest of the shop that I work in your spot.My daughter was ask if she would mind to move and she said that she did not want to give up her station.and if a person ask and some one says no then ...End of Story ..I really do lots of praying about this and try to have a better attitude and i do sometimes,but stillI get tired of feeling like I let her get by with a lot and just pretend that all will get better.. I need some feed back..... lynn Hi, Me and a friend of mine decided to go into business together,opening a hair salon. She is not there as much as I am nor does she clean the shop like I do, but she does do all the paper work from home and keeps excellient record and such. She is a wonderful,person.But a very much in control type person..She come in the shop and decides that she will start changing things around.She is always trying to make changes with something..I told her that,the desk did not need to be moved and everthing is a issue with her..i really try not to be angry.but sometimes she has a way of hitting the wrong button.I try to take to my husband and all he says is you two need to talk. Well guess what.. we do and she still want her way.Then my daughter has worked at the same station for almost 2 yrs. and she walks in and says that it is in the best intrest of the shop that I work in your spot.My daughter was ask if she would mind to move and she said that she did not want to give up her station.and if a person ask and some one says no then …End of Story ..I really do lots of praying about this and try to have a better attitude and i do sometimes,but stillI get tired of feeling like I let her get by with a lot and just pretend that all will get better.. I need some feed back….. lynn

]]> By: DD http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/comment-page-1/#comment-240616 DD Fri, 16 Jan 2009 21:54:20 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/#comment-240616 I am about to loose my job, because of the way i talk to people. My boss has written me up 3 times(including today) because managers have talked to him about the way i talk to them. I do not know what to do. I do not know if i am angry or if i just dont know how not to say what i feel. Either way, one more strike i am out. I get upset because this is my first office job and i love to learn all the things that i have learned here. but.... i do not have enough time to finish things because i am doing the same thing every week and the people that i work with screw up every time. I do not understand, the reports are the same every week, the people are the same every week .. and i am there every week to help if they need. Instead of asking for help. They do it wrong, they dont check their work, they dont care if its wrong because they know i will fix it. They do not care if it will take 5 hours of my day. This week i did the job of a person... his whole job for a whole week that he did not do i did it the best i could in one day. All i needed is for him to come in to work and tell me the names of people i needed to finish the report. Instead he left early to go to the doctor(which is fine.. if you need to go, you need to go!) But i received no e-mails, no phone calls, no messages from him. The whole report was messed up at the end of the day. I got written up. Today.. i get written up because i called him asking him why he did not call me or sent me a message telling me he wasnt coming.. is that too much to ask? i want to know if i should take an anger management course.... HELP!!!!! DD I am about to loose my job, because of the way i talk to people. My boss has written me up 3 times(including today) because managers have talked to him about the way i talk to them. I do not know what to do. I do not know if i am angry or if i just dont know how not to say what i feel. Either way, one more strike i am out.
I get upset because this is my first office job and i love to learn all the things that i have learned here.
but…. i do not have enough time to finish things because i am doing the same thing every week and the people that i work with screw up every time. I do not understand, the reports are the same every week, the people are the same every week .. and i am there every week to help if they need. Instead of asking for help. They do it wrong, they dont check their work, they dont care if its wrong because they know i will fix it. They do not care if it will take 5 hours of my day. This week i did the job of a person… his whole job for a whole week that he did not do i did it the best i could in one day. All i needed is for him to come in to work and tell me the names of people i needed to finish the report. Instead he left early to go to the doctor(which is fine.. if you need to go, you need to go!) But i received no e-mails, no phone calls, no messages from him. The whole report was messed up at the end of the day. I got written up. Today.. i get written up because i called him asking him why he did not call me or sent me a message telling me he wasnt coming.. is that too much to ask? i want to know if i should take an anger management course…. HELP!!!!!

DD

]]> By: Shampaa Bhushan http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/comment-page-1/#comment-239114 Shampaa Bhushan Tue, 14 Oct 2008 09:34:42 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/#comment-239114 Hello, I have finished my MBA and got a job in a freight forwarding company. Unfortunately due to my fathers accident I have to go back home. I went home with a sanctioned leave but as I have worked only for 2 months, it was too early to ask for a leave. But it was an emergency, still I went with the leave sanctioned by the Vice President of the company. When I came back I saw someone else sitting at my chair and I was told my services were replaced and I can work as a receptionist. I left that job just after 2 months, it was very difficult to find a new job. Finally after 2 months I have got 1 job in Sales, previously I was in Operations and I personally dont like sales or marketing as I dont have patience and convincing power which is very important for sales. I am stuck with a job which I dont like and I dont have the urge to do it, plus the manager is rude, abusive and behave as if I am his personal servant. First he was assistant manager, and in spite of abusing the management, he is promoted. I have finished only 1 month and I am not happy with my job, but I have to keep on working as I have to repay my education loan. Please advice ,(if you have any :-) Hello,

I have finished my MBA and got a job in a freight forwarding company. Unfortunately due to my fathers accident I have to go back home. I went home with a sanctioned leave but as I have worked only for 2 months, it was too early to ask for a leave. But it was an emergency, still I went with the leave sanctioned by the Vice President of the company.
When I came back I saw someone else sitting at my chair and I was told my services were replaced and I can work as a receptionist.
I left that job just after 2 months, it was very difficult to find a new job.

Finally after 2 months I have got 1 job in Sales, previously I was in Operations and I personally dont like sales or marketing as I dont have patience and convincing power which is very important for sales. I am stuck with a job which I dont like and I dont have the urge to do it, plus the manager is rude, abusive and behave as if I am his personal servant.

First he was assistant manager, and in spite of abusing the management, he is promoted. I have finished only 1 month and I am not happy with my job, but I have to keep on working as I have to repay my education loan.

Please advice ,(if you have any :-)

]]> By: Ioka http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/comment-page-1/#comment-236799 Ioka Thu, 10 Jul 2008 18:33:12 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/#comment-236799 A few years ago I was restructured out of a career, not just a job. It was not the first time I'd been through a layoff that necessitated a career change, but this time around I'm still feeling fallout from it 6 years down the road, especially with regard to my income, which dropped significantly. So, there are times when I still feel resentment and frustration over the situation. I know there are a lot of people in the same boat, and many who are worse off than I, and I think that anger over major workplace changes is a timely topic to post about, as we seem to be in the throes of yet another economic downturn with more company restructuring ahead. I don't have any answers though, about dealing with anger over this situation. In my own case, I went back to school, forged a new career and plodded along regardless of how angry or frustrated I was feeling at times (which is not to say I was NEVER happy or satisfied). But when you're sole support for a child you do what you have to do to get by, and if that means you don't always walk around with a big smile on your face (and who does?) that's just the way it is. However, I would not be able to afford another career change after this, if one were to become necessary, because I spent my savings going back to school and supplementing my underemployment while making the whole transition. So, I'm hoping I chose wisely enough that things will be stable for now. Other than that, in my opinion, happiness or satisfaction in the workplace is highly subjective and individual. It has a lot to do with finding the right fit for you - chemistry with your coworkers, whether you like what you do, and whatever other aspects of a job are meaningful to you (such as a short commute, benefits, etc.). While personal happiness is part "positive mental attitude," that's not the whole of it, in my opinion. A few years ago I was restructured out of a career, not just a job. It was not the first time I’d been through a layoff that necessitated a career change, but this time around I’m still feeling fallout from it 6 years down the road, especially with regard to my income, which dropped significantly. So, there are times when I still feel resentment and frustration over the situation.

I know there are a lot of people in the same boat, and many who are worse off than I, and I think that anger over major workplace changes is a timely topic to post about, as we seem to be in the throes of yet another economic downturn with more company restructuring ahead.

I don’t have any answers though, about dealing with anger over this situation. In my own case, I went back to school, forged a new career and plodded along regardless of how angry or frustrated I was feeling at times (which is not to say I was NEVER happy or satisfied). But when you’re sole support for a child you do what you have to do to get by, and if that means you don’t always walk around with a big smile on your face (and who does?) that’s just the way it is.

However, I would not be able to afford another career change after this, if one were to become necessary, because I spent my savings going back to school and supplementing my underemployment while making the whole transition. So, I’m hoping I chose wisely enough that things will be stable for now.

Other than that, in my opinion, happiness or satisfaction in the workplace is highly subjective and individual. It has a lot to do with finding the right fit for you – chemistry with your coworkers, whether you like what you do, and whatever other aspects of a job are meaningful to you (such as a short commute, benefits, etc.). While personal happiness is part “positive mental attitude,” that’s not the whole of it, in my opinion.

]]> By: Sandra http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/comment-page-1/#comment-229161 Sandra Tue, 26 Feb 2008 15:57:36 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/#comment-229161 Hi: I just read your site and it describes the situation that I went through. I was burned out and left my job after coming back from stress leave because nothing had changed. I am taking a break and will probably do childcare at home or something like that starting next September. I had been a government welfare social worker for 8 and a half years and I just started taking my job too seriously and the comments of others. I just felt frustrated, and struggled to keep up with the demands. It is typical that over the years that I was there, I saw many people come and go because they just burned out. Everyone fights and shares their stress around, and it was hard to leave, but I just had to get out. I guess I left before things got ugly and they had to take further action. I felt that it was getting to that point and I had a lot of anger. Thanks for the information and the comments of the other helped me feel that this was not all my fault. I felt that it was my fault and after I got help, I realized that mostly everyone burns out in that occupation after 5 years. Everyone there was just like me. Thanks Sandra Hi:
I just read your site and it describes the situation that I went through. I was burned out and left my job after coming back from stress leave because nothing had changed. I am taking a break and will probably do childcare at home or something like that starting next September.
I had been a government welfare social worker for 8 and a half years and I just started taking my job too seriously and the comments of others. I just felt frustrated, and struggled to keep up with the demands. It is typical that over the years that I was there, I saw many people come and go because they just burned out. Everyone fights and shares their stress around, and it was hard to leave, but I just had to get out. I guess I left before things got ugly and they had to take further action. I felt that it was getting to that point and I had a lot of anger. Thanks for the information and the comments of the other helped me feel that this was not all my fault. I felt that it was my fault and after I got help, I realized that mostly everyone burns out in that occupation after 5 years. Everyone there was just like me. Thanks Sandra

]]> By: scott nutter http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/comment-page-1/#comment-206600 scott nutter Mon, 07 Jan 2008 04:18:44 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/#comment-206600 Alex, Thanks for the mention. This is one of the reasons I decide to post what I previously kept in a journal.....to show people that the exercise can be done every day.....easily. HappyUP!!! Alex,

Thanks for the mention. This is one of the reasons I decide to post what I previously kept in a journal…..to show people that the exercise can be done every day…..easily.

HappyUP!!!

]]> By: Aliza http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/comment-page-1/#comment-205893 Aliza Sat, 05 Jan 2008 21:45:50 +0000 http://positivesharing.com/2008/01/how-to-deal-with-anger-at-work/#comment-205893 Venting CAN be helpful - just in getting things off your chest. However that's probably best done outside of the work environment yo unow find yourself in!! At any rate, anger can push you to do deconstructive things - suck as get yourself fired - or, conversely, be constructive and get yo uthinking about how you can change this new situation you find yourself in. Either by changing your attitude towards it or by finding something else - or even by becoming self employed. I was pushed out of a job I loved by circumstances beyond my control. I found another position fairly quickly, paying what I made in my last job, however things at my new job are VERY different. I'm just not a cubicle person who follows rules very well. But I'm a hard worker - and very creative, plus I have background in advertising, bookkeeping and how to run a business...so I am thinking that running my own business may be the way to go. Venting CAN be helpful – just in getting things off your chest. However that’s probably best done outside of the work environment yo unow find yourself in!!
At any rate, anger can push you to do deconstructive things – suck as get yourself fired – or, conversely, be constructive and get yo uthinking about how you can change this new situation you find yourself in. Either by changing your attitude towards it or by finding something else – or even by becoming self employed.
I was pushed out of a job I loved by circumstances beyond my control. I found another position fairly quickly, paying what I made in my last job, however things at my new job are VERY different. I’m just not a cubicle person who follows rules very well. But I’m a hard worker – and very creative, plus I have background in advertising, bookkeeping and how to run a business…so I am thinking that running my own business may be the way to go.

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