Who did you get to develop the program for FB?

I already know what makes my co-workers feel I make their lives miserable…minding my own business, having personal experiences I don’t relate, being happy with my life and vomiting very little about myself. People will tell you anything, everything and in time you realize they have said nothing. Those who are interested spend time getting to know me and I do the same with them, the others just have conditions and hurdles they want me to jump over to prove my likeability, and willingness to be manipulated into a friendly member of their clique. Personally I could care less about those people, whatever they think is controlled by them, not me. People who KNOW ME don’t need Facebook, MySpace etc. to tell me anything about me or themselves. We interact on a personal level, verbally honest, supportive and personally caring about each individuals success. Not one of us needs a forum for communication as it’s already in place. We also don’t need questions to bring insights, as we look out for each other in very humane ways. We are varied in ages (late 20′s to early 60′s) , work well together and are friends who know each other, not people with abstract opinions about perceptions that have to be explained, rehashed, repented, apologized for. If I am an ass, I can be sure one of them will notice and non-judgementally we will discuss it and that works in the opposite also. At work we are seen as a cohesive group, one that continuously gets better, so we are making an impact and the circle grows larger. We would much rather effect real change in the workplace, than just talk about it. We have a couple of after hours meetings a month where we discuss our work environment and develop a model for the next months changes and aspirations, individually and as a group.

I hope this works well for you and others who join this initiative, but please don’t forget the personal factor and also the need to completely engage the humans as people. Sometimes all this talk is just venting and of no use, anxiety creating or self-esteem killing. You must ensure balance and genuine reflection and care for each other when something like this is engaged in. All the best and I pray it is helpful, nurturing and empowering!

Sounds like what you’re talking about used to be called 360º peer review, an idea I thought was great but never could get anyone else interested. that may be due to how laborious it could be–everyone evaluating everyone else, like a corporate “Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon.” But doing it on a voluntary basis could take out the laboriousness and maybe add some F-U-N.

The big, big benefit would be to open someone’s eyes to what they are doing to make life miserable for others… but would such a person agree to the quetionnaire? Not very likely.

I’m seriously thinking of developing a non-Facebook version of the same applications, where you simply enter the email-addresses of the people you want to invite.

Would work about the same…

We’ll let the Facebook version run for a while and then see what happens :o)