Category: Happy At Work

How to be happy at work

  • Quote

    “If you observe a really happy man you will find him building a boat, writing a symphony, educating his son, growing double dahlias in his garden.

    He will not be searching for happiness as if it were a collar button that has rolled under the radiator.”

    – W. Beran Wolfe

    The inherent paradox in all search for happiness is this: Seeking happiness for itself tends to be a shallow pursuit. But achieving happiness by doing great work or seeking happiness because it will allow you to do more good for others turns it from a selfish to a noble, meaningful goal. And the exact same thing goes at work.

    Also: People who are active are happier! According to a new study, “People who stay busy with tasks tend to be happier than idle folks”.

  • How to be nice… when you’re the boss

    Linda and Robin (authors of the excellent book The Power of Nice) just blogged about niceness in managers, and their post is one of those bad-news-good-news deals. First the bad news. They write that:

    Some scientific studies suggest that being in a position of authority has a unique effect on the human brain, that can cause people to become less sympathetic to the emotions and concerns of others—and as history has shown us, this can have a devastating effect on a business’ bottom line.

    I agree completely. There are two unfortunate factors working against niceness in management:

    1: Many organizations don’t see niceness as a success factor in managers.
    When they promote people to management positions, they may pick people who are professional, experienced, assertive, etc. Studies also show, that they tend to pick people who are taller than average and have good hair. Seriously.

    In fact, being nice can actually hinder your career prospects. Just think of the old saw that “Nice guys finish last.”

    2: Being given authority can actually make a person less nice.
    Bob Sutton wrote about this in The No Asshole Rule:

    One of the simplest and yet most fascinating experiments to test the thesis is the “cookie crumbles” experiment. Researchers placed college students in groups of three and gave them an artificial assignment — collaboration on a short policy paper about a social issue. They then randomly assigned one of the students to evaluate the other two for points that would affect their ability to win a cash bonus. Having set up this artificial power hierarchy, researchers then casually brought to working trios plates containing five cookies.

    They found that not only did the disinhibited “powerful” students eat more than their share of the cookies, they were more likely to chew with their mouths open and to scatter crumbs over the table.

    Fortunately, there’s good news too in Linda’s and Robin’s post.

    In order for NICE guys who made it to the top to avoid falling victim to the power paradox, all they need to do is flex their NICE muscles, daily.

    They go on to give some specific actions that managers can take to stay nice. Go read their post, it’s excellent.

    And of course I hardly have to add that nice managers are essential to happiness at work. They’re much more likely to be happy themselves, much more likely to have happy employees and hence are much more successful.

    Your take

    Is niceness a trait you want to see in your boss? Who’s the nicest boss you’ve ever had? What did he or she do that worked? What did that do to you and your colleagues? Please write a comment, I’d love to know your take.

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  • Monday Tip

    The Chief Happiness Officer's monday tipsWe’re reviving one of my favorite traditions on this blog namely the Monday Tip. Every Monday, we’ll give you one simple tool, trick, tip or idea that you can use to make yourself or your co-workers a little happier.

    This week’s tip is to put something fun on your office door (or your cubicle wall) where co-workers, employees and bosses will see it.

    This 2-minute video shows you how – and if you can do it in a bank, I guess it can be done anywhere :o)

    What will you put on your door? Have a happy week!

    The Chief Happiness Officer’s Monday tips are simple, easy, fun things you can do to make yourself and others happy at work and get the work-week off to a great start. Something everyone can do in five minutes, tops. When you try it, write a comment here to tell me how it went.

    Previous Monday tips.

  • Happiness in green

    On Wednesday I gave a speech to 150 bank managers (it went great). The dress code there was typical Danish business style, including a lot of suits and ties. It was all very… blue.

    On Thursday my audience was a lot… greener:

    What you see in the picture is the Air Control Wing of the Danish Air Force. These are the people who monitor Danish air space. Some of them are also stationed around the world, including in Afghanistan. The presentation went really, really well and before I went on stage I got a great tour of the air base. They even taught me to field strip one of these:

    Yep, that’s me with an M-96. It’s not every client I go to, that has these lying around the office :o)

  • Happiness at work in Guatemala

    Arbejdsglæde i Guatemala

    I’ve just returned from a speaking gig in Guatemala – it was a fantastic experience.

    I was the main keynote speaker at the 20th. annual conference of AGRH, the association of HR managers in Guatemala. In addition to the keynote I also spoke at a shorter VIP event and had a whole bunch of meetings with business people and interviews with various media.

    I had a great time, but here are my top 5 things about my trip:

    1: A conference about happiness at work – in Guatemala(!)
    Here I am in stage for my presentation. Notice the Danish flag in the background with all the Latin American flags:

    The conference was a day and a half and the theme for the whole event was happiness at work or Felicidad Laboral as you can see in the logo above. As far as we know, this was only the second conference about workplace happiness in the world – and ours was the first. That’s pretty good for a Latin American country, to focus not only on having jobs but on creating happy workplaces. The conference was opened with a speech by the Guatemalan Minister of Labor, who also spoke on the importance of having a job you like.

    2: The fantastic people of Guatemala
    Every single person I met at the conference and in Guatemala in general was friendly, open, curious and happy. Here I am with the conference arrangers at the closing party:

    3: I was a rock star for 4 days :o)
    All the other speakers were from the region (Guatemala, El Salvador, Mexico, Honduras) so I was the main international speaker. That meant that everyone wanted to talk to me, have their picture taken with me or even get autographs. I could get used to that :o)

    Here’s a poster for the event:

    Notice the part below my name that says “Experto Mundial #1”. I’m having a T-shirt made with those words on it :o)

    4: The Guatemala Sink hole

    I was fortunate enough to get a private tour of Guatemala City and when my guide asked me what I would like to see besides the usual sights, I immediately mentioned the Guatemala sink hole. I’m apparently the first tourist ever to ask to see that, so he didn’t even know exactly where it was. But we asked around and finally found it. It’s a bizarre sight to see a big round hole in the middle of a street in the middle of a big city.

    5: Guatamala gets it
    The 250 HR managers in attendance loved my presentation and I sold a lot of signed copies of my first book in its Spanish translation. But the best thing wa to talk to the participants afterwards and get the clear impression that they are committed to creating happy workplaces.

    One of the other presentations at the conference was an survey done by PriceWaterhouseCoopers of HR managers in Guatemala, and according to their report, 95% agree that happiness is good for business results and 75% already have initiatives to create happiness or will soon begin.

    All in all it was a fantastic trip, and we’re proud to be able to add Guatemala to the list of countries we’ve worked in. Here’s the complete list: Germany, England, Ireland, USA, Sweden, Turkey, Denmark, Ireland, France, Poland, Holland, Estonia, Slovenia, India, Croatia, Bahamas, Switzerland and Guatemala.

  • What would you do about a gossiping boss?

    While I’m away on vacation (actually I’m spending most of it renovating our new apartment) could you please take a moment to read this question from a reader and give her your 2 cents? Thanks!

    Hi I would appreciate some advice from anyone…really..PLEASE!

    My company just got a new manager, my old manager was bad..he was verbally abusive but he had his good sides in his organizational skills and neatness. When I found out there would be a new manager I became excited as I wouldn’t get yelled at anymore.

    When she got hired I became assistant manager. I became even more excited because I felt like I could finally exert my potential and really help out in the workplace.

    Well that quickly became crap when a girl that hates me befriended my boss. My boss quickly began gossiping about me to my coworkers, asking them to not tell me anything, saying that I want her job, saying that I’m the one who gossips about her and…I give her attitude. Hearing about this was harsh because I tried to be as nicest and as helpful as possible. I tried backing off and letting her take the reigns so she wouldn’t feel threatened by me (I have more experience in the facility). .but nothing has worked, she seems to be gossiping MORE now.

    The people that I have asked for advice tell me to let it go and that my hard work will shine through in the end and she will see that I”m not a bad person and all the rumors she hears will all be disproven.

    I don’t know what to do, I don’t now if I should approach her or how to solve the problem. It’s become quite stressful. My company doesn’t really work closely with HR and its an “at will” company so she is pretty much able to “can” my ass if she wants to. I hate it when people talk about me and it’s been hard holding back.

    Can anyone give me helpful advice. PLEASE??

  • Business culture: Denmark vs. USA vs. Guatemala

    It’s obvious that business culture is different in different countries – but different how? How much is myth and prejudice and how much is fact? Are Americans really brash and superficial? Are the Germans really punctual and humorless? Or as I heard one stand-up comic say once: “Laughter is a wonderful thing. Where would we be without laughter? [pause]. Germany!”

    Gerd Hofstede to the rescue. Hofstede is a Dutch Sociologist who has been analyzing business culture in different countries for over 40 years.

    He also quantifies the prevailing business culture in 4 dimensions:
    Power Distance Index (PDI). This is the extent to which the less powerful members of organizations and institutions accept and expect that power is distributed unequally.

    Individualism (IDV). The degree to which individuals are integrated into groups. On the individualist side we find societies in which the ties between individuals are loose: everyone is expected to look after him/herself and his/her immediate family. On the collectivist side, we find societies in which people from birth onwards are integrated into strong, cohesive in-groups, often extended families (with uncles, aunts and grandparents) which continue protecting them in exchange for unquestioning loyalty.

    Masculinity (MAS). Masculine cultures are very assertive and competitive, feminine cultures are modest and caring.

    Uncertainty Avoidance Index (UAI). This deals with a society’s tolerance for uncertainty and ambiguity. It indicates to what extent a culture programs its members to feel either uncomfortable or comfortable in unstructured situations.

    Here, for example, is Denmark:

    As you can see, Danish business culture has a very low power distance. This is typical for Danish workplaces, where employees will always call managers by their first names and you rarely see a manager giving a direct order. The Culture in Denmark tends towards the individualistic rather than collective and is very feminine. This means that even though Danes don’t see themselves as integral parts of a collective, there is still a huge focus on other people’s emotional state. Finally, uncertainty avoidance is very low, meaning Danish workplaces can take uncertainty. Indeed, a typical Danish attitude would be “Don’t tell me how to do my job, I’d rather figure it out for myself.”

    Let’s compare that to the US:

    Power Distance is higher and the culture is more masculine but what really sticks out is individualism. As you might expect, American workplaces are characterized by high levels of individualism and less of a sense of belonging to a collective.

    Finally, the reason I’m writing this blog post: Guatemala. I’m writing this in my hotel room in Guatemala City, and tomorrow I’m keynoting at a conference for 200 HR managers. So of course I wanted to know what the business culture here is like. Take a look at this:

    Check out that Power Distance! As Hofstede writes:

    Guatemala has the highest Uncertainty Avoidance (UAI) Hofstede Dimension ranking of all Latin countries, indicating the society’s extremely low level of tolerance for uncertainty. In an effort to minimize or reduce this level of uncertainty, strict rules, laws, policies, and regulations are adopted and implemented.

    Guatemala is tied with Panama for the highest Power Distance (PDI) ranking among Latin countries with a 95, compared to an average of 70. This is indicative of a high level of inequality of power and wealth within the society.

    The question I have to ask is (of course) this:

    What business culture is most conducive to happiness at work.

    Unsurprisingly, my answer is: The Scandinavian (which is almost identical to the one shown above for Denmark). Indeed, when you look at studies comparing happiness at work in different countries, the Scandinavian nations are always at the top (and #1 is usually Denmark).

    And I think that Hofstede’s work gives us part of the reason why this is so:

    • Low power distance means employees typically have control and influence over their own work situation.
    • A tendency towards the individualistic means that each individual is free to pursue their own happiness, but is still connected to the group.
    • A feminine culture means that people care about each other.
    • Low uncertainty avoidance is a must in an ever-changing world.

    So I believe that companies who pursue a culture and a set of core principles that are in line with this will be happier workplaces – and, as studies show, happy companies make more money. On the other hand, companies that go for masculine cultures with high power distance will end up being very unhappy and will ultimately have their butts kicked by their happy competitors!

    Your take

    What’s the culture like in your country? You can look up your own country’s culture here. Let me know what you find and whether or not you agree :o)

  • Introducing: The Happiness at Work Newsletter

    This is it – today is the day that I can finally announce our international newsletter about happiness at work.

    We’ve had a thriving and highly popular newsletter in Danish for years, but somehow never got around to doing one in English. Well, no more procrastination – here it is :o)

    When you sign up for it you can expect:

    • About one email a month.
    • Tips, links, inspiration and ideas about happiness at work.
    • Articles and videos about happiness at work.
    • The occasional thinly veiled attempt to get you to buy some of our stuff :o)
    • At least one belly laugh per newsletter.
    • No spam what so ever – ever!

    And you can sign up right here:




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  • Another great comment

    Tired

    One of my most popular posts is still the one about The Cult of Overwork and it just got another great comment from Dee:

    I work in retail, and it’s true, some enjoy spending all their time at work, and that’s fine. If you want to spend 60 hours at work, that’s your prerogative. What I don’t like is the judgmental attitudes surrounding work hours– the unsaid expectation that if you don’t work 9-9, you’re a failure, or letting your team down.

    No, working 12 hours, five days in a row makes me miserable AND a failure– a failure at my job. I work to live, I don’t live to work, as the old saying goes and, when I first started and was eager to fit in, I bent over backwards keeping a similar schedule. I felt ashamed that my ‘meager’ 12 hour day contribution wasn’t enough, and I felt in ‘awe’ of the woman that habitually came in at 6am and leaving at 9pm. Then one day, about a year into the job, I remember wondering why I had gotten the flu yet AGAIN, (the fourth time in two months!) when it hit me. I was working way too much and almost killing myself. Life is going to get me in the end. I don’t need my job to speed up that process.

    Now I work less, work better, and win more accolades, get more sales, and get sick less, all because I don’t conform to the cult of overwork. I’m in the minority, but I’m happy. And that lady? Well, she still works her heart out, and complains the whole way.

    That’s the way to do it, Dee! Read the rest of the comment here.

  • Friday Spoing

    I’m now back from Vegas and the WorldBlu Award celebrating the world’s most democratic companies (it was fantastic – more later) and it’s now time for this week’s Friday Spoing:

    Have a happy weekend!