Category: Happy At Work

How to be happy at work

  • Podcast about emotions at work

    podcastAnna Farmery of the excellent Engaging Brand blog and I had a great conversation about emotions at work.

    Some of the key points that came up were:

    • Ignoring emotions at work means big trouble.
    • We can try and tell ourselves that we are 100% rational at work. We’re kidding no one.
    • How should leaders handle emotions?
    • The main point is openness. Be open to what you and others are feeling.
    • Ask, and be able to handle the answers.

    And of course the hilarious story of how Anna celebrates at work and when she scores hockey goals.

    Listen to or download the podcast.

  • Happy Links

    Happy LinksLearning Voyager thinks intelligent disobedience is important at work. “The ultimate application is in the field of organization development, where leaders are attempting to build a highly adaptive and successful organization. Unless the organization has a way to overcome its own blindness and detect a real and present danger, it may get run over.”

    Slow Leadership has The Plain Truth About Work/Life Balance. “Achieving an acceptable degree of work/life balance is never going to be easy, but it won’t even be possible unless you first understand clearly what that balance is and how it works.” This blog has some of the most consistently great writing on leadership and work I’ve ever seen.

    The Engaging Brand got great customer service – at the dentist! “I had a mother who gave me this HUGE fear of dentists…40 years into my life and the sweat rolls as I enter THAT room, and see THAT chair. But fear not, I have found a dentist who could coach you on turning an unhappy customer into an engaged one.”

  • Some quotes from my book

    Happy Hour is 9 to 5I thought I’d pull out and publish some quotes from my brand new book about happiness at work:

    “Seriously: Do you want to spend your working life simply being satisfied? When you look back on 50 years spent in business, do you want to be able to say, “Well, I was satisfied???? No! Make happiness your goal. As in, “Let’s make this a workplace where people are happy to work.??? As in, “I’ve been working for 50 years now, and it absolutely rocks! To me work is challenging, stimulating and just plain fun.??? ”

    “Imagine for a moment how it would feel to lie in bed on a Monday morning going “YES! I get to go to work this week!???”

    “Studies consistently show that happy companies are way more productive, creative and service-oriented than unhappy ones. Therefore, the happy companies will beat the pants off the unhappy ones in the market place. The future of business is happy! It’s inevitable.”

    “See, happiness at work is an emotion. It comes from inside of you, and like all other emotions it is difficult to define, but inescapable once it’s present. Or not present. Can you define love? Poets have tried for thousands of years and aren’t getting much closer. But when you’re feeling love, you’re acutely aware of it, even though you have no formal definition.”

    “You can’t be happy at work every day. No matter how much you love your job, there are still going to be bad days. And that’s cool—it’s always OK to have a bad day at work.”

    “Happiness at work is not about eliminating all the bad stuff from your job. It’s about being happy at work even though some of these bad things are present. It’s about building your skills and your energy to fix the problems, and to create more and more positive experiences at work.”

    “The path to happiness at work starts with a simple decision: You must want to be happy. If you don’t commit to being happy at work, you won’t be. You won’t make the choices that make you happy. You won’t take the actions needed to get there. You won’t change the things that need to change.”

    All of these are plucked from just the introduction and the first chapter. Hey – that book is pretty quotable :o) You can buy it or read the whole book free online.

  • The BBC on happiness at work

    bbcIt’s official, happiness at work matters!

    Forget salary, location, prospects – happiness is the new weapon in the drive to recruit the best and brightest new workers.

    Would the BBC lie to us? I think not!

    The article actually deals both with having a happy brand and happy employees, and cites Google and Orange as examples of companies who practice this.

    All eschew the sleek corporate image once associated with success, favouring instead cute hand-drawn logos and chatty spiels about the company ethos.

    Not only does this seem to appeal to customers, it proves quite a hook for prospective employees. To be in employment is, for most of us, a given. And Britons work the longest hours in Europe. So why not try to make it sound as enjoyable and fulfilling as possible?

    I like it, but not everyone agrees. Check out this comment on the article:

    What a crock…. I, like almost everyone I have ever met come to work to earn a living to pay for the things they like/need. If they did not need to work they would be sat at home watching the footy…….

    Maybe he’s right, and we should all just accept that work is by definition unpleasant and that’s why we get paid to do it :o)

  • Happy Links

    Roger von Oech tells you how to discover your creative style. “Much of our educational system is an elaborate game of “guess what the teacher is thinking,” and we come to believe that the best ideas are in someone else’s head rather than our own. Heraclitus reminds us that there are good ideas within ourselves if we are willing to dig deeply enough.” He gets extra points for bringing Heraclitus into this!

    Gifter.org wants to collect million wishes and a million bucks. Go give them a hand!

    LinksTrusted advisor says drop your new year’s resolutions and make a new year’s gratitude list. “Resolutions often have a component of dissatisfaction with self. For many, it isn’t just dissatisfaction—it’s self-hatred.” This is also what my friend Stephen Shapiro writes about in his excellent book Goal-Free Living and on his equally excellent blog. (thx Lisa Guinn).

    How to overcome the Loss of Motivation that Follows a Surge of Productivity. “How many times have you started a new activity (such as a personal project or exercise routine) with a burst of enthusiasm, only to see that initial momentum evaporate?”

    Gretchen Rubin has worked on her happiness project for a year now. “Am I happier? Absolutely.” Some great lessons on happiness there.

    Boxes and Arrows magazine interviews Barry Schwartz, author of The Paradox of Choice. “And when you cross a line (and you are probably going to ask me “where’s the line???? and I’m going to say, ???I don’t know; nobody knows???), choice goes from being beneficial to being paralyzing. So one effect of too many choices is that people can’t choose at all.”

    A 45 minute video of Richard Dawkins explaining why it pays to be nice. Prisoner’s dilemma, selfish genes and tragedy of the commons are all explained very well. And, oh, that cultured British accent :o)

    A nice story about generosity at Southwest Airlines. “The good news (yes, there is some!) about being as forgetful as I can be is that I’ve had the chance to see, and to experience, generosity from complete strangers.”

  • How do you make your co-workers happy?

    Happy Hour is 9 to 5Next Tuesday I’ll be interviewed on startupspark.com and as a warm-up they’re running a little contest. The winner gets a copy of Happy Hour is 9 to 5, my brand new book about happiness at work.

    All you have to do, is go to their post about the contest, and write a comment explaining what you do to make your co-workers a little happier at work. Remember: Winner gets a book!

    I look forward to reading your answer :o)

  • If you ever find yourself saying…

    Inspiring words

    There are some negative phrases we’ve heard so often at work, that we may suddenly find ourselves saying them. They represent a frame of mind that is cynical, despondent, helpless and victimized.

    Research shows that what we say reinforces what we think. Say something often enough, and it becomes how you see the world. That’s why we have to watch out for these pessimistic phrases. If you ever find yourself saying them, stop and ask yourself if it actually represents the truth or if maybe it’s more of an automatic verbal uttering.

    Some pessimistic phrases to avoid

    Here’s a partial list of phrases to watch for. Do you know any that belong on the list?

    “It’s not my dream job, but it’s only for a year…”
    ONLY A YEAR? Don’t you realize that a year is 12 months? 200 working days? 1600 hours?

    Say this instead: “It’s not the ideal job, so I didn’t take it.”

    “He’s a jerk, but he gets results!”
    Yeah, HE gets results – everybody else gets demotivated, bullied, harassed and stressed. Go read The No Asshole Rule by Bob Sutton. And his excellent blog.

    Say this instead: “He’s a jerk, so we fired him!”

    “Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.”
    Murphy’s law. The safe haven for pessimists everywhere. Too bad it ain’t true.

    Say this instead: “Things may go wrong – then we fix them!”

    “My boss doesn’t motivate me.”
    Listen: No boss ever motivated a single employee in the history of employment. Motivation is an emotion – your motivation exists inside you, and you’re in charge of it.

    Say this instead: “I motivate me.”

    “I hate my job – but so does everyone else.”
    Hating your job may be a common enough thing today – but so is adult onset diabetes. That doesn’t mean you don’t do something about it!

    Say this instead: “I hated my job. So I got a new one.” or “I hated my job, so I fixed it.”

    “There’s no such thing as a free lunch”
    Except that there is. Plenty. The world is a generous, forgiving and nurturing place, and sometimes you get exactly what you need exactly when you need it.If you’re open to it, that is.

    Say this instead: “Can I buy you lunch?”

    “What’s wrong with people today?!”
    If every single person you interact with seems incredibly annoying… the problem may be you.

    Say this instead: “Hmmm… I seem to be easily annoyed today.”

    “I’m stuck in a dead-end job.”
    Riiight. You’re stuck. There’s no way out. Because three men in ski-masks show up every morning and force you to go to work at gunpoint.

    Say this instead: “I am where I’ve chosen to be! And if I want, I can choose to be somewhere else.”

    “Let’s not get carried away!”
    WHAT?! There is nothing better than being carried away by a great idea, nice people, a fun meeting or a good conversation.

    Say this instead: “This is wonderful!”

    “It’s too good to be true!”
    Funny how you never hear people saying “This is too bad to be true.”

    Say this instead: “This is great. I love it!”

    “What’s the catch?”
    Sometimes there just ain’t no catch.

    Say this instead: “Thank you!”

    “You can’t trust people.”
    Nonsense. Most people are nice, honest and loyal. Are you gonna treat them badly because of the tiny percentage of cheaters?

    Say this instead: “People are great!”

    The worst thing about these sayings, is that if you keep repeating them, you make it so. If that is how you see the world, then your choices, your speech and your actions will reinforce this view. That’s why it’s worth replacing them with something more true.

    What about you – got any more pessimistic workplace sayings we can flush out and replace?

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  • Quote

    TruckA strong competent leader is a wonderful asset. So is a strong competent bonded team. These don’t have to be mutually exclusive although many strong leaders do interfere with team dynamics. The team has a higher “truck number”. (as in “How many of us can get hit by a truck before we’re doomed”? – a useful risk metric for project work).

    The bonded team provides an advantage in resilience vs. the strong leader model. The value of this advantage varies considerably with context.
    – Mark Delaney (source)

    First of all: That’s a great quote and a nice balanced view of centralized leadership vs. decentralized leadership. Secondly: Truck number is a hilarious (albeit grim) metric.

  • Ask the CHO: How do you run a business without managers

    Dilbert bossRobert asked this question in a comment on a previous post:

    If I remember correctly Alexander, I read on your site here that one of your companies did not have any managers? Do you elaborate on that anywhere and if not could you?

    It seems that a lot of the problems seem to come from low to middle management and as someone who is looking to start my own software company I don’t want this to happen in my organization. A no managers approach seems pretty appealing.

    You’re right Robert. In Enterprise Systems, the IT company I co-founded back in 1997, we decided not to have any managers. We wanted plenty of leadership, but we wanted dynamic leadership that could change as the situation warranted.

    So rather than have presidents, vice presidents and managers, all employees had an equal say in running the company. This was backed up by the fact that all employees were also co-owners, every new hire being offered a stake in the company after six months on the job. While I and my two co-founders retained a majority of the shares, this gave us no greater power in making day-to-day decisions.

    So how did we make decisions? We had two major structures in place:
    Areas of responsibility
    We sat down and made a list of all the categories of tasks we had in the company. Sales, finance, intranet, our website, personnel, etc. There were around 20 in all. Then instead of appointing managers responsible for each of these, we asked who in the company would like to do it, and let people choose for themselves where they wanted to be involved. Interestingly, everyone signed up for at least a couple of these and every single task got at least one person assigned to it.

    The result was that all these tasks were done by people who liked doing it – and who therefore invariably did a great job.

    The people who took on such an area of responsibility were responsible for making a lost of all tasks, for making a budget if required and for making sure that everything worked as it should.

    Company meetings
    Every two weeks we had a company meeting for all employees. This was also important because many of us didn’t work out of the office but at a customer’s site. At these meetings, we made larger decisions or any decisions that didn’t readily fall under one of the established areas of responsibility. When we voted, it was one man, one vote, regardless of seniority or number of shares.

    So how did this work in practice? Here’s an example: When it looked like we needed a new and larger office, we raised the issue at a company meeting. Did we need new offices? Yes! What were our preferences for size, price, location, etc.? Discussion ensued.

    We then appointed a task force and asked them to go look at offices and return with some options. Who was in the task force? The people who volunteered to be, of course. The group came back with some ideas, and we all voted on which one we preferred. We had ourselves a new office. The task force went on to find us a designer to spruce up the place and some cool furniture. This being a major(!) expense, the budget was approved at another company meeting.

    The advantages of this model are:

    • Ownership. Everyone is as involved as they want to be. No one is sulking because a decision was made over their head.
    • Motivation. People are insanely motivated, because they’re a part of running the company – they don’t just work there.
    • Implementing decisions. Because people are involved in making decisions, it becomes much easier to implement them. You don’t have to sell decisions to reluctant employees.

    The disadvantages are:

    • Time. Sometimes it takes time to arrive at a decision. This was never a problem for us, but if your business climate requires constant quick leaderhip decisions, this may not be the right model.
    • Petty discussions. If you’re not careful, meetings can devolve into endless, petty talk about mindless minutiae. In this case it’s important to stop and delegate or to trust someone who cares to make a good decision.

    The proudest moment for our model came in the company’s darkest hour. We were never a dotcom company, but when that era ended, we were in trouble too. Suddenly about half our customers were no longer buying from us, and we were in deep trouble. Basically we were out of money and it didn’t look like new customers were coming in.

    In a traditional company this is where the CEO steps in and makes the tough decisions needed, and I have to tell you, we were sorely tempted to offload this decision onto one person who could then call the shots. Luckily we held onto our process and in a series of company meetings that ranged from playful to painful we talked about how we would handle it.

    We narrowed it down to two choices: Taking a 25% pay cut or firing 5 people. Discussions raged. I, for one, held out for the pay cuts. That became a unanimous decision. And a good one too – just 6 months later we had signed new customers, and every single consultant was back in business. If we had fired people back then, we would have missed them sorely.

    I realize that this experiment worked for an IT company of just 20 people and that you can’t possibly generalize from that to larger companies in other fields. And yet I believe that this is certainly a viable way to go. That what companies really need is leadership that is dynamic, distributed and entirely voluntary. Leadership that switches from person to person, depending on who has the will and the energy, rather than what it says on somebody’s business card.

    Here’s some more reading on the topic:

  • The value of a happy good morning

    Good morningYesterday, David left a comment with this wonderful story:

    I would like to share a practice i started when my company moved the office to a new building a couple of years ago.

    When i first arrived in the building i met a serious security gard that looked me like asking: “Who are you? and Where are you going????… I said good morning and entered the elevator…. Next day i planned and started playing an experiment to see how a smile would change the reaction of the man.

    When I entered the building I looked at the man and wished him a good morning with a sincere big smile, in fact I meant that… and that made him change his serious face to a grin.. and wished me back a good morning…

    I have been doing “the big smile experiment??? ever since and has become and anchor….. every time i get to my office i enter the building wishing Good Morning! with a sincere big smile.. and that makes me start the day with smile in my face.. and in my heart..

    And the relation with the security guard is great.. we chat for a moment when we run into each other….. making my day, and i hope his, more enjoyable.

    As the result was so good.. i have added this practice to my every day life.. and try to give away sincere smiles to whom ever I found…

    Good Morning!! :-)))

    That rocks, David! I previously blogged about saying a friendly good morning, and I still believe it’s one very simple, but sadly overlooked way to make yourself and others happier at work.

    How about you? Don’t you hate it, when you come in in the morning, and no one even acknlowledges your presence? How do you greet others in the morning?