Best reader feedback EVER!

How to deal with constant complainers

A while back, I wrote a blog post about dealing with constant complainers. The main point is that offering possible solutions rarely works on inveterate complainers because they’re not really after suggestions – they’re after empathy.

Well, one reader tried it out, and found that… well, read it for yourself:

Holy Crap it works. My wife is a constant complainer and when ever I voice my opinion or offer a suggestion she gets mad. I literally used what was suggested in the article, I said, “You know, that sounds terrible. I don’t know how you deal with all of these problems.”

She thought I was being super sweet and understanding… to make a long story short, I got laid. It was worth the effort.

I’m still laughing about that one. And if this whole “happiness at work” gig ever goes sour I’m going into marriage counselling instead :o)

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3 responses to “Best reader feedback EVER!”

  1. Melissa Avatar

    OMG! That’s classic!!!! I do that to my mom all the time. Luckily she has not attempted incest, LOL

  2. Mark McClure Coaching Avatar

    Great story!
    The ability to tune into someone’s world view is rather like a tourist seeing the best and worst of a country and able to appreciate it is what it is.

  3. Nutster Avatar

    I’m retired so I can’t do it with co-workers. I live along so I can’t do it to my spouse or significant other. I guess I could use it on myself……but, if it leads to a romantic interlude, I may not get done what needs to get done!

    Great post

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