3 simple ways to hack your to do list for happiness

Do you keep a to-do list at work? And if you do is it a source of happiness at work or an endless source of frustration, overflowing with unsolved tasks – as it is for many people?

One blog post sums it up like this:

I hate my to-do list because

  1. I feel so overwhelmed when I see this long list of to-dos.
  2. Items not crossed off on the to-do list are a reminder that I didn’t finish what I set out to do and that I could have done more with my day.

If you feel the same way, here are 3 simple tips to help you use your to-do list in a way that creates happiness at work rather than frustration.

1: Change your to-do list to a could-do list

We got a tip from a reader who had been feeling the pressure of an endless to-do list and had come up with a simple but brilliant hack. She wrote:

This is something I’ve been doing for several months now when I noticed my ‘To Do’ list was generating a sense of frustration.

Now, I write a ‘Could Do’ list, instead of a ‘To Do’ list. When I draw up my daily lists of tasks I refuse to see it as stuff I have to get done. When I did that in the past, I’d feel a sense of dissatisfaction at the end of the day when I didn’t have everything ticked off, despite the fact that I knew when I wrote it, it was highly unlikely I’d get to everything.

It’s a tiny shift, but by viewing it as a list of things I could do today, I’m relieving the pressure to get them all done. It feels like there’s more of an element of choice around how I spend my time – I don’t have to do x today, I could leave it till tomorrow and focus more attention on y today instead.

Now, at the end of the day, I don’t mind how many ticks I do or don’t have against the items on my list, and I feel better about my day’s work because there is no shadow from what I should have done and didn’t.

I think that’s a fantastic idea. It’s a subtle shift inside your own mind that is likely to help you get started. In my experience, taking the pressure off yourself makes you more likely to get stuff done. Which is of course a sharp contrast to traditional business thinking which holds that greater pressure = greater performance.

2: Add everything you do to the list

Let’s face it, most of what you do during the day probably isn’t on your to-do list. Many tasks just arise during the day in an ad hoc manner. So add those to the to-do list as well.

For instance, after writing this blog post (which was NOT on my to-do list, inspiration just suddenly grabbed me) I will add an item to my list that says Blog about to-do lists, set the deadline for today and immediately cross it off my list.

It may seem redundant, but there is actually a sense of accomplishment (and a release of dopamine, the brain’s own motivation drug) from crossing it off the list) even if I’ve just now added it.

This also makes sense in light of the third tip:

3: Once a week, look at all the tasks you’ve completed

In my opinion, the major problem with most to-do lists software is, that they only show you what you haven’t yet completed. As soon as you finish a task it disappears from the list forever.

One of the major sources of happiness at work is getting stuff done and seeing the results of your work. A to-do list that only shows you everything you haven’t yet done, is likely to make you less happy at work.

But there’s an easy hack for that: Once a week go into your to-do list and look at everything you got done in the last week. This may be a good thing to do on a Friday afternoon. If you have trouble remembering to do it, you could even put this on your (yes) to-do list and then cross it off once you’ve done it :o)

The upshot

To-do lists are an effective tool to make sure you remember to do everything you need to do at work. However, they tend to make people unhappy at work because they only focus on what we have not done. Fortunately, we can hack that.

Update… Here’s a bonus tip:
When you’re deciding which task to do next, don’t necessarily pick the first one on the list or the most important one. Instead, pick one you feel like doing right now.

This is not always possible and sometimes there are critical tasks that you simply need to do right now. But often you have the choice of what to do first and in that case, go with the one you want to do.

That will make you much more likely to get it done and give you more energy to apply to the less fun tasks. If you start with the hardest, the most important or the most boring task, that may steal your energy and motivation completely.

Your take

What do you think – could any of these tips work for you? Do you have any other good ways to effectively and happily use to-do lists? Please write a comment, I’d love to hear your take.

Related posts

If you’re still not getting your could-do items done, you can also read my previous post on How to procrastinate effectively.

9 thoughts on “3 simple ways to hack your to do list for happiness”

  1. I’ve found that having a weekly list verses a daily list works better for me as it gives me more flexibility to complete tasks. I don’t have to keep moving tasks to the next day because of unexpected tasks.

  2. I heard this tip at a conference, and found it intriguing: When you complete a task on your To-Do List, Instead of crossing it off, highlight it. That way, the focus becomes what you have accomplished, rather than what remains to be done. Brilliant!

  3. I do the one where you add ad-hoc tasks to your list and cross it off, and it does help. It’s sounds so silly, but looking at my filled whiteboard at the end of the day, instead of a few unaccomplished big tasks, really makes me appreciate where my time went. It’s also good because you can see how you spend your time each day!

  4. I have a list of ‘to do ‘ items that I add to each day. I have trialled using Outlook tasks and dont’ find that so helpful but I do enter a new task on outlook if it is to happen some time in the future and I set up a reminder near the time the task is due. Mostly the tasks are of the format.. remember to .do x,y, z!
    I use a page to a day diary and transfer any unfinished tasks from one day to the next and add the new ones to the new day sheet.

    If I am very busy, i just have one list and work through it, adding things as i need to and when one page is full, i copy all the unfinished tasks to another page .I can tell busy periods as the daily sheets are not used!

    When I have finished a task, I too highlight the item and find it by far the best way of managing such lists. You can highlight part of an item if it is not complete but you have done a bit of it or are waiting a response. I also use the 1 minute rule. If a request for something comes in that will only take 1 minute to complete, I do it straight away and don’t write it down but otherwise I try to write down all tasks and highlight them when i have done them.

    If you use a page a day, and only transfer unfinished tasks to the next day, it also gives you a record that you completed the task and when you did so.

    So not only does it help you manage the day to day work , it also serves as a memory aide ( for those days when you thing ‘ did i do that task?) or when someone challenges you over a piece of work or wants follow up.

    at the moment, it looks to me a though my work load will lessen during periods of the year and then peak in the summer. Might have to take my ‘to do’ list to pastures new,, but at 57, I wonder who will need me?????

  5. On Friday or Saturday at the end of each week I write in a leather bound journal of “successes”. The things I track each week are completions, deletions, creations and what I call soul food.

    I began doing this when I noticed that all I used to do was notice what I didn’t get finished. In order to feel good about my accomplishments I set up this criteria of things that meant something to me. Soul food can be a walk on the beach, meditations, a soulful chat with a friend, reading something that enriches me etc. This journal helps me keep things in perspective.

  6. I have a folded post-it note which I keep in my back back pocket at all times. If I get a niggling feeling that I’ve forgotten something, then I just whip it out and have a quick look! This way I force myself to remember most of what I need to do, and the post-it just serves as a backup.

  7. We encourage people to change it to a ‘Ta-Da’ List.

    When you complete a task, highlight it (so that it is still crossed out but you can see how much you’ve achieved) and then stand up, raise your hands above your head and (in a celebratory way) sing out ‘TA-DA’!

    Works wonders in a packed office ;)

  8. And please remember, that there is a difference between important and urgent tasks. Not all urgent tasks are important ! (even if your boss say so)

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