Category: Happy At Work

How to be happy at work

  • Even if you win the rat race – you’re still a rat!

    I had to share this wonderful cartoon by Polyp:

    There’s also a cool animated version:

    Does anyone honestly think that making more money, consuming more stuff, driving a bigger car or bagging that fancy title will make them happier?

    It seems that many people consistently focus their time and energy on getting things that won’t make them happy – to the cost of the simple but important factors: Friends, family, meaning and fun.

    Ask yourself this: How much of your time is spent doing things that make you or other people happy? And how much racing the other rats in the maze?

    Here are some way to get out of the rat race:

    I think Lily Tomlin said it best:

    “The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat.”

    (If this post looks familiar, it’s because it IS a repost – this time with full attribution to Polyp who made it and who was kind enough to give me retroactive permission to use his cartoon – Thanks!)

  • Come with me to New York (if you’re Danish)

    I have an awesome event coming up: In October I’m arranging a week-long trip to New York to meet some of the best and most innovative businesses and leaders on the US east coast.

    This is a chance to encounter the newest trends in leadership, business, innovation, customer service and employer branding years before they make it into the business literature.

    While most of the people we’ll meet there speak English, the rest of the program will be in Danish, so you must speak Danish to participate.

    To keep the trip as useful and valuable as possible, we’re limiting it to only 20 participants and I can promise you one of the most interesting, inspiring and useful learning events ever. I’m really, REALLY excited about it.

    Read all about it and sign up here (In Danish).

  • Five simple ways to STFU in meetings

    If there’s one problem that plagues most business meetings it’s that a few participants are doing most of the talking. If you’re one of those people who tend to talk a lot, here are 5 tips to help you shut up and listen when you need to.

    1: Put your hand over your mouth

    You can put one hand over the lower part of your face and your mouth. To an outside observer you will look thoughtful and observant. In reality your holding your mouth forcibly shut. It’s a simple physical reminder to yourself to not speak right now.

    2: Ask some great questions

    People find you very intelligent and persuasive when you let them talk. For instance, the most successful sales meetings are the ones where the customer does almost all the talking. A great way to get them talking, and still feel that you’re contributing, is to ask great questions.

    3: Keep track

    Have a piece of paper in front of you and make a mark on it every time you speak. Notice how many marks you get up to during a meeting.

    4: Notice how you feel when you’re quiet

    In my case, I get real antsy when there’s something I’m itching to say. My body tenses up, I tend to hold my breath and I feel generally very uncomfortable. This pressure eventually forces me to speak up.

    How about you – how do you feel when there’s something you really want to say?

    5: Ask yourself a simple question

    Before you speak, ask yourself this: “Is what I’m about to say something I need to say or something the other participants need to hear?” Those are often not the same.

    The upshot

    Remember: good meetings are not characterized by the amount of talking but by the amount of listening going on.

    If you’re a habitual talker like me, I’m sure that you will find that learning to say less and listen more will be a huge boon. People will find you more sympathetic, they will respect you more and even though you may end up saying less, what you do say will be received more appreciatively and have much more of an impact.

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  • I’m on BBC

    BBCI was interviewed recently for the BBC Radio 4 program In Business with Peter Day.

    They were doing an episode on happiness at work:

    A British professor at the Wharton Business School in Philadelphia has done some research appearing to indicate that US corporations with the happiest employees have a financial performance notably better than lower ranked companies.

    This is either blindingly obvious or a great mystery, and investors seeking more than merely quantitative data on which to base their decisions are getting interested in these league tables of Best Companies to Work For.

    The real question seems to be: Is happiness in the workplace (that may be so beneficial to a company) created by healthcare and staff karaoke sessions and subsidised canteens, or is it deeper than that?

    You can listen to the whole program here.

  • My book is now available in Dutch: Happy Hour is van 9 tot 5

    Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay – my two favorite Ernos (that’s Erno Mijland and Erno Hannink) just announced that the Dutch version of my book Happy Hour is 9 to 5 is now out.

    You can buy it on paper, as a pdf e-book or you can read it free on line.

    There’s also an excellent accompanying blog in Dutch about happiness at work.

    And incidentally, I’m coming to Holland to give a presentation on November 5 this year at Thoughts on Happiness Symposium in Baarn. Read all about it and sign up here.

    Other versions of the book:

  • Meet me in New York

    Alexander KjerulfI’ll be in New York soon attending (believe it or not) a course in standup comedy! I’ll be in New York from Tuesday June 17 to Saturday June 21 and the course is only in the evenings, so I have plenty of free time.

    Wanna meet? Feel free Contact me if you’re also in NY around then.

    And here’s one final tip: My standup course ends with a performance Saturday evening at 5:30pm at (I think) The Gotham Comedy Club. If you want to see me give standup a try for the first time, please join me there :o)

  • Test yourself: Do you make your colleagues happy at work?

    Do you make your co-workers happy or unhappy at work?

    Using my brand-new Facebook application, you can invite current or past co-workers to answer 10 simple questions about you, and learn if you make others happy at work or if you’re the office bully making everyone run away screaming. You will also learn the top 3 ways you make others happy at work.

    It’s really simple:

    1. Click here to go to Facebook and add the application.
    2. Invite current and past co-workers to rate you.
    3. Once they answer the questions about you, you can see your rating.

    You need to be a facebook user – if you’re not you can sign up for free right away.

    The application was developed by Infinito who did a great job on time and within the budget. I recommend them highly!

    Try it out and let me know what you think!

  • Happy birthday to me

    Alexander KjerulfBelieve it or not (I’m having a hard time getting my mind around it myself), but I turn 40 today.

    Randall Munro knows exactly how I feel about it. And he’s 23!

  • Of Brits and Danes and happiness at work

    While the English and Danish languages have strong common roots there are of course many words that exist only in one language and not in the other.

    Cheerio, elevenses and stiff upper lip are examples of highly British phrases that have no direct Danish equivalent.

    But here’s a word that exists only in Danish and not in English: arbejdsglæde.

    I know that to most English-speakers this looks like a random jumble of letters you’d get if you tossed a bunch of Scrabble tiles on the floor, but there is meaning behind it.

    Arbejde means work and glæde means happiness, so arbejdsglæde is happiness at work. This word also exists in the other Nordic languages (Swedish, Norwegian, Finnish and Icelandic) but not in any other language on the planet. I’ve checked!

    For instance, where we Scandinavians have arbejdsglæde, the Japanese instead have Karoshi. Which means “Death from overwork.”

    And this is no coincidence; there is a word for it in Danish because Danish workplaces have a long-standing tradition of wanting to make their employees happy. To most Danes, a job isn’t just a way to get paid – we fully expect to enjoy ourselves at work.

    I’ve recently been doing some work for Hewlett-Packard in England, helping them promote their mobile products (laptops and mobile phones). The idea is that mobile technology gives employees flexiblity at work and flexibility makes us happy.

    This means I’ve been talk to a lot of Brits and appearing in the British media, and I think I can safely say, that the British approach to work is quite different than the Scandinavian one.

    Few people in Britain seem to expect to be happy at work. Their focus seems to be on putting in the hours and getting paid. To most Britons, a job is just a job – and work is not compatible with any notions of enjoyment or happiness.

    One BBC radio interviewer even asked me if it wasn’t fine to be miserable, if being miserable makes you happy.

    No. No, no, no!

    Being miserable at work, or even just being sort of OK but not really at work is no longer enough, for three very specific reasons.

    First reason: time. We spend more of our waking hours at work than on anything else. We spend more time at work than with our friends, families and children combined. If you’re unhappy at work, you’ll spend a large part of your life being miserable.

    Second reason: health. Hating your job can make you sick. Worst case, it can kill you. Studies show that people who hate theirn jobs run a much higher risk of contracting serious diseases like cancer, heart disease and diabetes.

    Third reason: money! Happy companies make more money, because their employees are more creative, productive, service-minded and innovative.

    The results of these two different attitudes is clear: While the Danes have the highest levels of happiness at work, Brits are… not happy. Recent studies have shown that up to a third of all Brits actively dislike work, while still more neither like it nor loathe it.

    Interestingly, you might think that since Danes like their jobs so much, they’d be working more hours. You’d be wrong. Britons are the workaholics of Europe putting in more hours per worker than even those industrious Germans.

    And seeing as Brits work so hard, you’d think they’d get more work done than those annoyingly cheerful Danes. You’d be wrong again. Worker productivity is in fact higher in Denmark and Denmark has the world’s best business climate according to the Economist.

    So here’s my challenge to British companies, managers and employees everywhere: Put happiness at work first. Realize once and for all that life’s too short to spend so many hours in jobs that are at best tolerable and at worst hell on earth.

    In short – let’s see some more arbejdsglæde in Britain.

  • An interview with me

    Stephen Hopson interviewed me by email for his excellent blog Adversity University and the interview is now up in 2 parts. Part 1Part 2.

    Stephen’s focus is on overcoming adversity and some of his questions forced me to re-think stuff. Damn you, Steve :o) Also, Steve adds some great comments to my answers. Check it out.