• Interview with Sheldon Cooke

    InterviewSheldon Cooke is a customer service professional and regular reader of this blog who’s recently become manager of a team in a dot-com startup. I asked Sheldon to do an email interview to get his ideas and tips for creating a happy department.

    When I wrote the questions I knew that Sheldon has a strong commitment to happiness at work, but I didn’t know how strong or the personal reasons behind it. It all comes out in Sheldon’s amazing story below, along with some great ways to create a happy workplace.

    Q: Sheldon, could you start by telling us a little about yourself and your work?
    Well, I have recently entered a leadership position in a retail dot com startup in the Support team. I’ve worked all my career (getting close to a decade!) in customer contact centers, some world class, some not so. I consider myself a customer service professional, rare in an industry with a very high burn-out rate.

    Q: What were your expectations and goals going into that position?
    I wasn’t completely sure what to expect – I was warned that I had a department consisting of one person, a gigantic backlog of work that was discovered after the employee responsible for it had quit, plus outdated workflow and backlog of general support inquiries.

    Sounds scary, right? But the opportunity was too good to pass up – I knew that I was more than capable for the task, and I knew the business model was more than sound. I guess my expectations were that I would get in there and dive right in and demonstrate that this wasn’t an insurmountable task for me or my department.

    I did feel very intimidated about it, before I started. I was wondering what I could do to immediately boost morale and productivity, and get the ball rolling to a better functioning department.

    Then, one day, I was surfing a friends’ blog. It led me to another blog, and that’s where I discovered a link to positivesharing.com. It was followed by a flurry of bookmarking posts (I still haven’t had a chance to go through them all in detail!), and I knew what my goal was – to instill a culture of happiness!

    Q: I know that happiness at work matters a lot to you personally? Why is that?
    Happiness is my first and foremost goal in life. Let me relate to you a very personal story as to why.

    Just about two years ago, I sat in shock in my doctor’s office as he told me I had type 2 bipolar disorder – a disorder that is characterized by long bouts of depression followed by mild periods of mania (hypomania). A very hard mood disorder to diagnose (as it is often mistaken for depression), I had been functional, but not particularly happy or motivated. I was mired in dead-end, entry level jobs and a dissatisfying personal life. I had resorted to finally talking about it after a devastating event in my personal life, and had a friend recommend this doctor to me.

    With the help of my doctor, who was one of the few locally who had experience with this disorder, I immediately began a treatment of a mood stabilizer and an anti-depressant. It was a dangerous treatment (the mood stabilizer has the potential to be highly toxic), but it was the best thing that’s ever happened to me.

    Within weeks, I started feeling the most exceptional thing – a certain feeling of normalcy. My self-esteem started to grow, and motivation entered my life. With some work, and some adjustments to my anti-depressants, I also started feeling something that I thought I understood, but it was then clear to me that I truly was beginning to understand it – happiness.

    Now, although sometimes I get down in the dumps or a bit too hyper for my own good, I am more than just functional, I am highly productive. I have accomplished more in the past two years than most people do in a decade. Things have been falling into place – the efforts of a year ago are now paying off in spades. My friends continually tell me how proud they are of me and what I’ve done.

    Some days I feel like I’m on top of the world.

    I have a better understanding of what happiness is and I don’t take it for granted – and since I spend 40-50 hours a week at work, why should I be miserable there? My life goal is to be happy in all aspects of my life – and work is just one aspect of it.

    Q: What makes you happy at work?
    -Accomplishing goals

    -Hearing my boss tell me that I’m on the right path and doing a great job

    -Laughing with my employees

    -Getting customer compliments

    -Hearing that the CEO has been saying some very nice things about you

    -Being comfortable in my space – I spend more awake time here than at home, why should it be sterile?

    -Being able to create a culture from scratch

    Q: Going into this job, what were some of your greatest challenges?
    This is my first leadership role, and I am still fighting trying to be Mr. Nice Guy all the time. Unfortunately, there are times where as much as you try to promote happiness, there will be incidents where lack of respect for the culture or the leader leads to conflicts and must be handled in a less than ideal manner. I try to keep it as positive as possible, but sometimes you have to be firm and clear to resolve differences.

    Some other things? Realizing that people pay far more attention to a team lead (I can be introverted at times). Being far more organized than I’m used to. Oh, and being more of a morning person. I love to sleep in.

    Q: You’ve been following this site for a while. What ideas and tools have you been able to take away and how have you used them? (Yes, this question is wholly gratuitous :o)
    -Environment is key – I loved your post on the top 10 cool workplaces. Our office was dingy and cluttered with old broken desks and other miscellaneous items. it’s much more productive now that it’s cleaned up, we all have ergonomic workstations, there are some things on the walls, and we even decorated for Christmas! I’ve been trying to get my guys to decorate a bit, to some success, but I’ve threatened them with Ricky Martin posters by their desks if they didn’t put something up! (They are lucky I can’t find any Ricky Martin posters).

    -Having a sense of humour is key. Laugh. Lots. There’s a lot of dialog and banter in our team, and it’s all light hearted and I even get good natured ribbing from the gang. It’s all in fun, and we keep it in line

    -Finding key attributes that will help us all identify with each other – we all love video games, and we’re saving up for a Wii for the team by handling the recycling at work! It’s an identifiable goal for all of us, something fun, and we are looking forward to having one to play with on our breaks!

    -Productivity is linked hand in hand with happiness – you say it again and again, and as things improve here and we are not dealing with angry and upset customers anymore now that our backlog is gone, we are even more productive!

    I have so many other things to try, and now that our holiday rush is over, I look forward to taking some time to further engage my gang in workshops and other tidbits that I’ve picked up and will continue pick up from you!

    Q: What has worked best and what results did it get you and your people?
    -Well, our Wii fund is up to $75 (I’ve tossed in a few bucks here and there as incentive), and we are all very excited about it! We still have about $200 to go, but we are already due for another trip to the recycling depot.

    -The change in environment not only helped our team, but it was noticed throughout the company and people were commenting on the renewed energy and positivity in our team in less than a month of me arriving.

    Q: Based on your experiences, what are your major tips to other new leaders?
    -Be prepared to make mistakes. In fact, your success depends upon learning from your mistakes, so embrace the opportunity they present. No one is perfect. (and if you aren’t making mistakes, then (although this sounds like an oxymoron) you’re doing something wrong)

    -Although there is a line between a manager/leader and his/her employees, it doesn’t mean that the leader stands apart from the team. The team cannot survive without a leader; the leader cannot survive without a team. The old paradigm where a leader is an authoritarian “dictator” is dead and should remain that way. A truly effective team is one where the division between leader and team isn’t pronounced, but blurred

    -Always have a basic understanding of specific functions. Not knowing how something is done, or at least not demonstrating a willingness to learn, is a key way to lose respect and effectiveness as a leader. It is the best way to demonstrate empathy for your team

    A great big thank you to Sheldon for agreeing to do the interview and for sharing his personal story and ideas.


  • Happy Links

    LaughA great cause needs your support: January 24 is Belly Laugh Day.

    I could have some fun with one of Brad Montgomery’s squeakers. Or with some silly string. In fact his whole site is great – check it out.

    For those who are not happy at work: Maximize your time away from work with Jobacle’s sick day calendar. Hilarious.


  • How to find a job you’ll love

    Choose a job that will make you happy

    Is your new years resolution to find a new job? Congratulations, you’re not alone! According to statistics, around 15% of the population switch jobs annually. At any given time, over half of the workforce are more or less actively looking for new work.

    This means that many, many people are facing an interesting question: How do I pick my next job? Which factors should matter? Which should I forget about?

    Many make the decision based mostly on salary, titles and responsibilities. That’s a mistake.

    Instead ask yourself this: Will your next job inspire you, energize you and allow you to do great work? Will you be working with nice, talented people and managers? Will your job help people out and make the world a better place?

    In short, make sure that your next job is one that will make you happy at work. Here are the steps you should take to make sure that your next job will be just that amazingly great!

    1: Decide to switch sooner rather than later

    No one has ever told me “I quit Company X in June, that was a mistake. I should’ve stuck around longer.” The vast majority of people who quit, only wish they’d done it sooner.

    It’s highly tempting to hang around in the old workplace waiting for things to get better. Don’t! If it’s time to go – make that decision and start actively looking for something else. The longer you stay in a bad job, the more it eats away the energy and self-confidence you need to find a new one.

    2: Give yourself time to find your new job

    The very first job you look at may be just the right one… or it may be the 20th.

    Give yourself time to actively look for something better and don’t let economic pressure, peer pressure or uncertainty force your hand.

    3: Focus on what you like at work, not on what you hate

    Many people switch jobs to get away from a bad situation. However, when you’re picking a new job, it’s not enough to look at all the things you want to avoid. Partly because there are an infinite number of things to avoid. But mostly because even if you avoid every single bad thing, that can only guarantee that you won’t be unhappy. To be happy at work, you also need good things, not just the absence of bad.

    The best way to find out what you want at work, is to look at what has previously made you love your job. Here’s how you do it:

    1. Think back to some specific situations, where you’ve been happy at work.
    2. Ask yourself what made these situations possible.
    3. Find out what will give you more of these great experiences in the future.

    If you want to do examine this in more detail, page 3 of this workbook has a worksheet for doing just that.

    4: Ignore salary

    Most people think that having a higher income would make them happier. They’re wrong! That is the conclusion of a study by Two Princeton professors, economist Alan B. Krueger and psychologist and Nobel laureate Daniel Kahneman. They say this:

    The belief that high income is associated with good mood is widespread but mostly illusory. People with above-average income are relatively satisfied with their lives but are barely happier than others in moment-to-moment experience, tend to be more tense, and do not spend more time in particularly enjoyable activities.

    I don’t mean to ignore the economic necessities we all face but they should not determine what work we take. What is a 25% raise worth, if it means being stressed, frustrated and unhappy 40/60/80 hours a week?

    5: Ignore other irrelevant details

    Some people choose their new job because of:

    • The title. “They want to make me First Assistant Manager.”
    • Perks. “They’re giving me a new car and use of the executive bathroom.”
    • Status. “I get 8 direct reports. Today I only have 5.”
    • Peer pressure. “If I take this job my husband/wife/friends/dad will be really impressed.”

    None of these factors will make you happy! Forget about them.

    6: Ask for what you want

    It’s a lot easier to get what you want if you actually ask for it. In your job interviews, let them know that being happy at work matters to you, and tell them what it takes to get you to love work.

    It’s true that asking for these things may mean not getting the job, and that’s precisely the point! If that job won’t make you happy, you don’t want it!

    7: Make that job great

    It’s up to you to find a good job, and then it’s up to you to make it a great job!

    You can sit passively on your butt and wait for your co-workers and your manager to make you happy – but that means nothing will ever happen. It’s your responsibility to:

    1. Know what makes you happy at work
    2. Tell others about it
    3. Do something about it

    8: Make yourself free to leave

    A bad job is bad. A bad job that you can’t get out of is excruciating. In fact, knowing that you’re free to leave can make it easier to make a job great, as I wrote about in a previous post.

    Also, reducing your expenses can be a great way to give yourself more leeway at work.

    The upshot

    Forget about salary, perks, titles and status. Choose your next job based on one, single consideration: Will it make you happy? Will it make you go “Yes, it’s Monday, I get to work!”

    Do this and you’re sure to enjoy your job more, enjoy life more AND be more successful at work.

    If you enjoyed this post, I’m pretty sure you’ll also like these:


  • Most popular posts of 2006

    102006 was a spectacular year for my blog. Huge(!) numbers of visitors and traffic. I’ve had to talk to my internet provider several times to increase my traffic quota.

    As always, some posts get way more attention than others. Here’s a list of my top 10 hits of 2006:

    I’ve been thinking a little about what’s made the blog such a success. The main factor has to be that I’ve found a way to make writing fun. If I don’t have fun writing, my writing is no good. That, and reddit.com.


  • My favorite books about happiness at work

    Alexander KjerulfOver the last 4 years, I must have read some 3-400 books related to happiness at work, and the ones listed here are the ones that have truly inspired me, moved me and made me think. They’re also all well written and a pleasure to read. Enjoy!

    Hal Rosenbluth: The customer comes second
    The story of a company that put its employees first and got amazing results from it.

    Timothy Gallwey: The inner game of work
    The most inspiring approach to learning at work I have ever seen.

    Harrison Owen: Open Space Technology
    Explains Open Space Meetings – the most insanely efficient and fun meeting form I have ever tried. For 10-1000 people. From 3 hours to 5 days.

    Peter Block : The answer to how is yes
    Whenever we start a new project, most of us go straight to “How?” But the right place to start is to ask “Why?” If you can’t find a reason that makes you go “Yes!” you probably shouldn’t do it.

    Kevin and Jackie Freiberg: Nuts!
    The story of Southwest Airlines, one of the happiest and most successful companies I know. A classic book!

    Paul Watzlawick: Change
    When do people change and when do they actively resist change? This book has some amazing knowledge on the paradoxical nature of personal change. One of my all-time favorites.

    Robert Wright: Non zero
    The world is becoming better and better. It pays to be nice. Those who cooperate are more efficient than those who compete. This book has many positive messages, all backed up by science. It’s also a great read.

    Ricardo Semler: The Seven-Day Weekend
    The story of Semco, the Brazilian company where workers choose their own salaries, work hours and managers. If you only read one book about happiness at work, make it this one.

    The Lazy Way to Success
    If work feels hard, you’re not doing it right. Fred Gratzon, entrepreneur and millionaire, explains why it always pays to be lazy.

    Martin Seligman: Learned Optimism
    Seligman explains Positive Psychology, why positive people lead better lives and how to learn to be positive.

    Richard Layard: Happiness, Lessons from a new Science
    How could you run a nation, based on making people as happy as possible? Interestingy, Layard is currently advising British politicians on this.

    David L. Cooperrider, Diana Whitney and Jacqueline M. Starvos: The Appreciative Inquiry Handbook
    Appreciative Inquiry is the most efficient tool I know for creating efficient, positive change in organizations and this book explains it simply.

    Tim Sanders: Love is the Killer App
    Explains why love, not greed or fear, is the most powerful force in business.

    Annette Simmons: The Story Factor
    The best book I know about applying storytelling in the business world.

    Richard Reeves: Happy Mondays
    You would never accept a romantic relationship that was “sort of OK??? or stay with a spouse who is “you know, nothing special, but I’m used to him/her???. So why should you accept anything less than true fulfillment on the job?

    Alfie Kohn: No contest
    Competition is everywhere in the business world, but contrary to popular belief, competition makes us less efficient and less happy.

    There are many more book reviews on the blog – more than a hundred in fact.


  • A Whole Lotta Thank-Yous

    Thank you!As the year wraps up, it’s a natural time to think back and be grateful. And I have more than ever to be grateful for.

    In fact, there is one thing I want to say.

    To the 500.000 people who have visited my blog this year for giving me impetus and a drive to blog more and better.

    To the thousands of people who have commented on posts for giving me feedback, ideas, questions and challenges.

    To the hundreds of people who have given me feedback on my book for helping me make it so good.

    To my wonderful girlfriend and my amazing family for loving me.

    To my clients for paying me to do what I love.

    To everyone who’s read and/or bought my book for giving the book a reason to exist.

    To my playmates all over the world for playing.

    To everyone who’s contributed, given me advice and helped me out for confirming what we all should know: That the world is a wonderful place and people are amazingly generous.

    To all of you, I want to say:

    A Million Thank-You’s.
    Click that link and count’em.

    I wish you an amazingly happy 2007!


  • Great stuff goin’ on

    LaunchSince I released my book a mere two weeks ago a crazy amount of great stuff has happened.

    Here are some of my favorites:

    All of this and more in just two weeks. Things are almost happening too quickly now. I LOVE it!


  • New feature: Subscribe by email

    EmailI’ve just added a “subscribe by email” feature to the blog, meaning you can get an email every time I write a new blogpost.

    The advantage is that you can read the post right in the email, and you can be among the first to read it. The disadvantage is that I usually post twice a day, so you will be getting quite a few emails from me – just though I’d warn ya :o)

    Anyway: If you want to subscribe by email, click this link and fill out the form.

    And of course, there’s always the rss feed if you’re into that kind of thing.


  • Christmas links

    I’m taking a short blogging break over Christmas and will be back at my browser on Wednesday the 28th. LinksIf you’re looking for some great reading about happiness at work over the holidays, here are some excellent blogposts.

    Bob Sutton has evidence that smiling makes you happy and likable as Gretchen Rubin of The Happiness Project claimed. It’s one of those “of course it’s true, but it’s still really nice to have studies backing it up” deals.

    David Maister tells the story of a truly courageous leader, “Jay Bertram, president of the TBWA office in Toronto, who asked his people to evaluate him and offered to resign if he did not improve how well he performed his role as their leader.”

    The Slacker Manager tells us how to write holiday cards to staff. “My ink-stained fingers are evidence of the labor of the last four hours. Only fifteen cards to show for it, but each is different and personal (no “Good job, Bob??? here).” It’s too late for this Christmas (unless you’re a really last-minute kind of person), but there are some great tips there.

    The Brazen Careerist thinks financial freedom is outdated and that we should go with optimism instead. “HELLO???? Can everyone standing in line to buy a Lear Jet please get a reality check? You do not need a plane to be happy, you need a plane to go visit the people who make you happy. A jet is not an expression of financial freedom. It’s an expression of your decision to not live near the people who mean the most to you.”

    Stephen Shapiro has a great post on allowing yourself to feel the pain in your life. “In college, I made this mix tape, aptly titled “The Depression Tape.??? It had the sappiest, saddest music you could imagine, containing nearly every song performed by Bread, Joe Cocker’s “You Are So Beautiful to Me,??? and Elton John’s sadder songs. You get the point.”

    Steve Roesler at All Things Workplace interviews some weirdo who calls himself The Chief Happiness Officer. Sheeeeesh, there are some strange people out there.

    And here are some great articles about happiness at work:
    Kenny Moore Held a Funeral to mark his company’s transition to a new organization. “When it was over, the CFO said to me, “You have some set of balls. Nobody but you could have gotten away with this.” But I didn’t feel like I had been very brave. People are dying to be connected, invited, involved. They don’t like having things shoved down their throats in a formulaic way. They show energy and commitment when they can be players and influence an initiative’s outcome.”

    Why we evolved altruism 12.000 years ago. “If an individual defended the group but was killed, any genes that the individual shared with the overall group would still be passed on.”

    How economists measure happiness. “Happiness is a big question both for researchers and for policy wonks these days, so it is slightly discomfiting to reflect that people may not even know the answer to the simple question, ‘Are you happy?’”


  • 5 things you probably don’t know about me

    Jodee Bock, author of the excellent book The 100% Factor, tagged me for a game of 5 things you don’t know about me. So here are five not commonly known factoids about me:

    1: 2-3 times a week, I teach aerobics in Scandinavia’s largest fitness chain. That’s right – I get paid to exercise :o)

    2: I’m half Greek, half Danish; was born in Tunisia; lived in Spain as a small child; grew up in Denmark.

    3: I may be the only person in the world who doesn’t like chocolate. Seriously – it tastes awful to me…

    4: I’m a certified laughter instructor. I took a course in laughter exercises with the Indian doctor who invented them, which means I know how to get groups of people to laugh at absolutely nothing.

    5: I’m a voracious reader. At any given time, I’m reading 3-5 different books. I can’t go to sleep at night, without something to read.



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