• Top 10 bad excuses for staying in a bad job

    If you’re unhappy at work, I’m sure that the thought “Man, I really should quit!” crosses your mind occasionally.

    So why don’t you?

    Even if you long desperately to quit, to get away from your horrible workplace, annoying co-workers or abusive managers, you may hesitate to actually do anything about it, because right on the heels of that impulse come a lot of other thoughts that hold you back from quitting.

    Each of these excuses may sound to you like the voice of sanity, offering perfectly good reasons why it is in fact better to stay and endure that bad job just a little longer, but look a little closer, and they don’t really hold up. What they do instead is keep you trapped in a job that is slowly but surely wearing you down.

    Here are 10 of the most common bad excuses for staying in a bad job.

    #1 “Things might get better”

    That jerk manager might be promoted out of there. That annoying co-worker could quit.That mound of overwork could suddenly disappear.

    On the other hand, things might also get worse. Or they might not change at all. If you’ve already done your best to improve your job situations and nothing’s happened, just waiting around for things to improve by themselves make little sense.

    #2 “My boss is such a jerk but if I quit now, he wins.”

    Who cares. This is not about winning or losing, this is your life. Move on, already.

    #3 “I’m not a quitter.”

    Well guess what these somewhat successful people have in common: Larry Page, Sergey Brin, Tiger Woods, Reese Witherspoon, John McEnroe and John Steinbeck?

    Yep, they all dropped out of Stanford.

    The old saying that “Winners never quit and quitters never win” is just plain wrong and leaving a bad job is just common sense.

    #4 “I’ll never get another job”

    Well not if you stay in your current job while it slowly grinds you down, you won’t! Move on now while you still have some self-confidence, motivation and energy left.

    #5 “If I quit I’ll lose my salary, status, company car, the recognition of my peers, etc.”

    Yes, quitting a job carries a price and that makes it scary. We all know this intimately.

    But few of us ask this question: What is the price of staying in a job that makes you unhappy?

    That price can be very high. It can ruin your work life but also your marriage, your family life, your health, your self-esteem and your sanity. Not all at once, but a little bit every day.

    #6 “Everywhere else is just as bad”

    That’s just nonsense. There are plenty of great workplaces in every industry.

    #7 “I’ve invested so much in this job already”

    You may have sacrificed a lot of time, energy and dignity already in attempts to make things better. This will make it more difficult for you to call it quits.

    I’m reminded of how Nigerian email scammers sucker in people. At first it’s a small investment, but then the amounts grow and grow. At each step the victim is reluctant to stop because that would mean losing all the money he’s spent so far.

    Quit anyway. Staying on is just throwing good time after bad.

    #8 “I’ll lose my health insurance.”

    I have a lot of sympathy for this argument. Where I live (Denmark), everybody gets free health care regardless of their employment situation so I can’t imagine the leverage this must give employers.

    One answer: Start looking for another job with similar health benefits.

    Also: Ask yourself what good job related health insurance is if your job is actually making your sick – which bad jobs can absolutely do.

    #9 “My job pays very well”

    I have zero sympathy for this argument. I don’t care how well your job pays; if it makes you unhappy it’s not worth it.

    Quite the contrary, if you make a lot of money now, use that financial security to quit and find a job that’ll make you happy.

    #10 “Quitting will look bad on my CV”

    Whereas staying for years in a job that grinds you down and goes nowhere will look excellent.

    The upshot

    Many of us would be much happier at work if we quit bad jobs sooner. I’ve talked to many people who have finally managed to quit a bad job and only wished they’d done it sooner. I have yet to meet a single person who quit a crappy job only to wish they’d stayed on longer.

    You may have perfectly good reasons to stay in your crappy job – all I’m saying is that it pays to examine those reasons very closely to make sure that they hold up.

    ‘Cause it may just be the fear talking.

    Your take

    What do you think? Have you ever been stuck in a lousy workplace? What kept you from leaving? What finally made you quit? Please write a comment, I’d love to hear your take.

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  • Epic office pranks

    It’s Friday. Take a moment to enjoy a couple of these epic office pranks.

    Here’s my favorite:


  • Some ridiculous quotes from some stupid book about (get this) happiness at work

    Happy Hour is 9 to 5Jørgen Larsen just finished reading my book and has blogged some of his favorite quotes from it. Thanks Jørgen!

    Also, Billy Waters just updated his fantastic mind map of Ricardo Semler’s book Maverick. Mind mapping an entire book is an excellent way to preserve the salient points for yourself and Billy gets all the important stuff in there.

    Semler’s two books Maverick and The Seven-Day Weekend are some of the best and most important books I’ve ever read about happiness at work and they’ve been a huge inspiration to my work.

    Billy has also promised to do a mind map of my book and I can’t wait to see it.

    And there’s more great news on my book:


  • Is the customer always right? Your comments.

    The Customer is Always Right

    My post on why “The Customer is Always Right” is wrong has generated an amazing amount of attention. It’s been read by 100,000s of people and been mentioned all over the blogosphere. It even got picked up in The New York Times.

    But most of all, it gets a LOT of great comments. Here are some examples.

    Chris wrote:

    I run a small company with about 20 employees. One day I heard commotion coming from the reception area. I hear a man yelling “I am the customer, you work for me and the customer is always right!”. I immediately went up and said, “No sir, you can’t get away with what you get away with at Walmart here. This young lady works for me and no matter what you think you were right about, you raised your voice and are no longer welcome.”

    He needed our services and wrote a letter of apology for his ‘cranky mood’.

    You raise your voice and you are out. No exceptions.

    That’s it in a nutshell.

    Grant wrote:

    I read this post the other day and it was hiding in the back of my mind then this past Thursday I had a job interview. The interviewer asked me, “What do you feel about the statement, ‘The customer is always right’?” I remembered this post and mentioned these points as well as embellished to make it more appropriate to the job description.

    After I answered that, the interviewer told me that I was the first person all day to answer that question correctly (she had already interviewed 6 people). Today I got a call offering me the position. I’d like to think that it had something to do with this blog post.

    Thanks :)

    SEE MOM! BROWSING THE INTERNETS IS A GOOD THING!!!

    I’ve told Grant that I take full credit for him getting the job and given him an account number where he can deposit 10% of his first year’s salary :o)

    Marie wrote:

    We recently had a customer who bounced a check, and had the audacity to call my customer service manager with a tirade of yelling & profanity (before she could explain what had happened). She was calm and waited for him to settle down and tried to explain… He continued to use profanity, only to stop when my CS Manager politely told him that if he didn’t quit, she would hang up… Later, he emailed a complaint to the corporate office stating how rude and unprofessional she had been…

    The customer DOES NOT have the right to harass my employees. I just happened to be in the office that day and could hear him screaming at her over the phone. I think she handled it WONDERFULLY; I took her out to lunch!

    I don’t believe that a customer has the right to verbally assault my employees and I have trained them not to take that type of abuse from anyone.

    SueBob writes:

    I worked at a print shop where my manager would occasionally fire customers. In four years, I think it was 3 people. He told one person, “I won’t have you abuse my employee.”

    I would have crawled through broken glass for him. It was one of the best employment experiences of my life.

    These comments show that there are many companies out there that realize that putting the employees first actually results in better customer service. The formula is simple: Happy employees = happy customers.

    But of course not everyone gets it. Yet.

    Anonymous writes:

    I work in a call center and showed this article to my boss. I’m told that senior managers view the ideas presented here as “silly.” Is it any wonder employees think our company is out to get them?

    Customers are allowed to verbally abuse our employees and this is supposed to be a sign of great customer service. All the while, lower level managers are directed to keep turnover down. The company doesn’t understand that people are not satisfied in a job where the company supports abuse towards them.

    Get a clue.

    Sheeesh!


  • Happiness in practice

    One of the regular readers and commenters on this blog is Eric Deniau, who’s VP of Engineering at Enensys in France. The really cool thing about Eric is that he doesn’t just stop at reading about happiness at work – he does something about it, and has tried a lot of things to make himself and his employees happy.

    Eric recently told me about some of the things he’s been up to:

    Some news about what is going on in my company.

    Let me first say that I do have your book on my desk, and I refer to it quite often in my day to day activities. I must confess that while I adhere 150% to its content and look permanently for ways to make people happier in their jobs, I still feel some difficulty to implement concretely a happy plan. Putting in place concrete actions to make the workplace more fun is not that easy: work can be a fun place, it is still work and too far-fetched ideas could be seen out of place given our culture, in my opinion. But I may be too shy and can be wrong on that point…

    That said, I have some interesting things to mention that happened recently, without a « real » happy plan in place:
    – most employees bring eating or drinking stuff (we are in France, after all) for their anniversary and employment birthday: croissant, home made cakes, crepes, etc… I personaly offered a drink and buffet before lunch for my first year in the company; this creates regular occasions to gather everybody in a friendly way;

    – small and soft rugby balls have been introduced in the lab following the world cup; when I see one around, I throw it to the next office as everyone else would do;

    – a lot of people have a lunch break onsite, and some like to play to a network game after. Instead of looking with a black eye at the screens I see when walking around, I smile and asks who wins (I do not personally enjoy network game player).

    – when coming back from a business trip to Switzerland before easter, I brought back easter eggs;

    – Our IT manager is the last one to present during company meetings: as he is a fun guy (unusual for an IT manager, I know, but it happens !), it is now the tradition that he displays a joke at the end of his slides and hence the monthly company meeting, ranging from funny YouTube videos to an automatic tool generating weirdo product names.

    Also, it has become a joke to say « happy plan ! » when a fun or simply nice idea comes to the mind of my close collaborators, as a kind of motto.

    Now, when the situation is more tense due to unhappy events occuring (it happens!), this kind of things have to be handled with more care: it’s not easy and sometimes not fair to have fun in that occasions. Recent exemples I have include stopping a contract of an under-performing employee, or the announcement of poor financial results. The good point I noticed is that this kind of “happy plan” behaviours comes back quite rapidly after several days, when re-initiating the thing a little bit.

    I will soon poll people again to know if they are happy at work. Personnaly, I am definitely Yeah++.

    More to come…

    As I wrote in my book (and constantly harp on in the blog) happiness at work comes mostly from doing a lot of small, easy and fun things regularly, preferably daily and Eric is definitely on the right track with easter eggs and foam rugby balls.

    But notice that he doesn’t stop there – he’s also not afraid to tackle difficult situations, like terminating an underperforming employee.

    That is a fine balance for a leader to walk – and a great way to create a happy workplace. Kudos, Eric!


  • Quote

    Bay Jordan, the CEO of Zealise, (go read his excellent blog) sent me this quote:

    “Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one’s values.”
    – Ayn Rand

    I’d love to hear your opinion on it. Do you agree? Are values (personal or corporate) making you happy or unhappy? Are they an important part of being happy or more peripheral?


  • Dealing with unpopular employees

    Send them packing

    Here’s a recent question from CNN Money:

    One of my employees is pretty capable, but she lacks people skills. No one in the office likes dealing with her. Recently she called me at home at 9 P.M. on a Friday, crying and saying she was typing up her résumé because the entire staff was against her.

    I listened, and then hinted that it wasn’t the time or place to discuss this. Now office tension is high. Can I tell this woman that, because she said she was updating her résumé, I assume she’s given notice?
    (source)

    That’s a good question but here’s an even better one: if that employee’s behavior is so bad and her social skills so atrocious, why hasn’t the manager reacted a long time ago? This is one of the most important things we have managers for – to make sure that counter-productive behavior in the workplaces is stopped.

    I read an interesting quote the other day (though I’ve forgotten where) that said that any behavior by employees that is not stopped by management becomes de facto legal.

    Bad behavior includes gossiping, badmouthing co-workers, constant negativity, unconstructive criticisms, bullying, not helping co-workers and not sharing information. If managers see this and do nothing – it’s now OK.

    And it shouldn’t be!

    One manager from a company I’ve worked with, took this responsibility seriously. One of his employees, a lady in her 50s who’s been with the company for many years, had become habitually negative.

    She’d end most phone calls by slamming down the receiver and blurting “Idiot!” whether she’d been talking to a customer or a co-worker. She would criticize all suggestions and plans she was consulted on. Co-workers respected her knowledge and competence but didn’t dare ask her any questions because of her demeanor.

    Finally the manager had a meeting with her. He explained exactly how he viewed her behavior and why it was making him and her co-workers unhappy at work. He then gave her the rest of the day off.

    When she called in sick the next day, he was pretty sure he was going to lose that employee. She returned to work the day after and asked for a meeting with him. And this is when she amazed him.

    She’d spent some time thinking about this and talking to her husband – and she’d come to agree that her behavior had become much too negative. The scary thing is that she hadn’t done any of this consciously – it had become a habit. One she now wanted to break.

    She’s been working on it since and both the manager and her co-worker have noticed a marked shift in her behavior. So, by the way, has her husband.

    This is exactly how managers should handle this type of situation. Employees who exhibit this type of bad behavior need attention and help to break out of it. If their behavior improves – excellent. Then it’s time to follow up and make sure the change is lasting. If it doesn’t help, then it’s time to fire that person.

    Letting people stay in jobs where they don’t fit in, where they’re not happy and where they’re not pulling their weight is a mistake. Managers may think they’re doing them a favor… they’re not!

    Remember, just one unhappy, unproductive employee can pull down the whole department. And what’s worse – this attitude is contagious. It spreads and infects others and if you’re not careful, you’ll end up with a hard-core little clique of dissatisfied, cynical employees who make everyone around them unhappy.

    Your take

    What do you think? Have you seen a manager take responsibility and address bad behavior in employees? Have you seen this behavior ignored and be allowed to spread?

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  • I’m in the New York Times

    New York Times

    Not only did my article on why “The Customer is Always Right” is wrong generate quite a stir last week (and a lot of great comments) – it also got mentioned in the New York Times!! Woo-hoooooo!!!

    And there’s more: if you’re in New Zealand – tune in to Afternoons With Jim Mora on Radio New Zealand National on Tuesday April 1 – there will be a long interview with yours truly.

    I think it’s fantastic to see how much interest there is in happiness at work in general and in me and my work specifically! Here are some more of my recent media appearances.


  • Event of the year: WorldBlu live 2008

    WorldBlu Live 2008

    This year’s WorldBlu Live conference has just opened for registration. It takes place on October 16-17 in New York.

    This event is about democratic workplaces and you will:

    • Learn best practices and leadership lessons from the CEOs of some cool democratic organizations.
    • Discover how running a business democratically is a key to being happy at work AND making more money.

    For me, this is THE conference event of the year and I really look forward to both speaking and participating.

    The last WorldBlu conference in Washington DC was one of the most inspiring business conferences I have ever attended – I have never seen so many cool, fascinating and fun people gathered in one place.

    Read more about the event here and register here. If you register before May 1st, you save a cool $300.


  • It’s who you work with

    Connection CultureMichael Stallard has written a beautiful ChangeThis manifesto called The Connection Culture: A New Source of Competitive Advantage.

    Connections matter at work. A lot. From Michael’s manifesto:

    An organization with a high degree of connection has employees who are more engaged, more productive in their jobs, and less likely to leave the organization for a competitor. Organizations with greater connection also have employees who share more information with their colleagues and, therefore, help decision-makers make better-informed decisions and help innovators innovate.

    It starts with the story of Michael’s wife cancer treatment at the hands of people who get the value of connecting:

    [Katie began] high dosage chemotherapy at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center in New York City. Our experience at Sloan-Kettering really surprised me. Every time we approached the front doors of the 53rd Street entrance in midtown Manhattan, the exuberant doormen locked their eyes on us and greeted us with big, warm smiles as if we were friends coming to visit. The receptionist and security people were equally friendly. During our first office visit with Katie’s oncologist, Dr. Martee Hensley, she spent an hour educating us, and, although the statistics she shared were sobering, Dr. Hensley’s warm disposition and optimistic attitude lifted our spirits and gave us hope. Simply put, we connected with the people at Sloan-Kettering, and it encouraged us and made us more optimistic.

    I could not agree more. And these three point sum it up nicely:

    Reflecting on these experiences made me realize three things:

    • First, connection is a powerful force that creates a positive bond between people based on both rational and emotional factors.
    • Second, connection contributes to bringing out the best in people—it energizes them, makes them more trusting and resilient to face life’s inevitable difficulties.
    • Third, connection can vary tremendously across organizations depending upon local culture and leadership.

    Feeling connected to the people we work with is tremendously important. If for no other reason, then for the simple fact that we spend a lot of time with them!

    Read Michael’s manifesto at ChangeThis.

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